What happens when you Ghost a Narcissist? (Will they Come Back?)
What happens when you Ghost a Narcissist? In this article we will be discussing the possibilities of ghosting a narcissist; the consequences and the true chances of working that out. What should you anticipate if you plan to ghost a narcissist?
Narcissists are the most difficult kind of personalities to ever come across, so if you have landed here on this article, one thing is for sure you are nearly exhausted by their toxicity and need a break for the sake of a good and peaceful time. So let us find out the probabilities of ghosting a narcissist along with the chances of that working in your favor.
Ghosting someone means abruptly ending a relationship without leaving any loose threads. Breaking up and ending any relationship with someone out of now where without providing a proper closure or mentioning reasons and cutting all means of communication with them is commonly termed as ghosting.
Ghosting term is usually associated with dating habits but it is not limited to that. Putting “Ghosting” into simple terms is cutting all means of communication with someone without informing or providing clarifications for the same. The term gains its name from the reference to ghosts. As Ghosts disappear into thin air whenever and wherever they wish, the same way ghosting is referred to as disappearing without informing and cutting all means to reach you.
What does ghosting or going off-reach imply?
Ghosting a narcissist means going completely no contact or an off-reach approach with them be it by deleting or blocking them on social media, blocking their phone number, not visiting places that you expect them to be, or even going to extreme limits like switching your grocery stores, taking different metros, or avoiding any activity that you think you might bump into them. Ghosting ensures that you keep your distance from them to give them the taste of their wrongdoings.
Ghosting a narcissist means going no contact with them which also includes,
- No contacting or staying in touch
- No calls, texts, and no connections through social media
- No casual meetups or encounters
- No more being friends with them
- No more exchanging gifts
- Not even meeting them through the mutual social group or gatherings
In short, ghosting is staying aloof from all places, people, and things that may eventually end up in chances of meeting or connecting with the narcissist.
Why would you want to ghost a narcissist? – Reasons for ghosting a narcissist
- For freeing yourself from the abusive and toxic cycle of connections with a narcissist.
- For making space for mental peace, self-care, and self-worth, which seem like rare and unapproachable concepts when you are with a narcissist.
- For not feeling the connection or the chemistry that initially made you attracted toward them.
- When you do not feel safe around them.
- When the level of toxicity and mental abuse reaches up to physical abuse.
- When you are no longer interested in any kind of relationship with them.
You are not seeking an act of hardcore revenge here, just remember that. All you want is freedom from their abuse, be it either for a short while or permanently. Maybe you wish to give them a taste of their behavior for a while so you are just making your move by ghosting them.
Do not even make the ghosting look like a revenge scheme. Because once a narcissist activates the revenge mode, there will be no sparing. They might give you a hard time, and you might even be reciprocating for the choices you made. So just remember to be sure that this is not a revenge thing, all you want is your freedom and a break from the toxic cycle which is seldom ending when you are with a narcissist.
What happens when you Ghost a Narcissist?
- Ghosting a narcissist might result in narcissistic rage
- They would find all possible means to reach you
- They would resort to all means to work their way with you again
- They would attack you when you are vulnerable
- You can be a victim of a narcissistic hoovering
- They may even seek revenge
- They can be malicious
- They would find reasons to contact you
- They will resort to manipulative tactics to change your mind
- They would try reappearing in your life
1. Ghosting a narcissist might result in narcissistic rage
What can be the most common reaction that you would expect from a narcissist to any inconvenience? Yes! you have guessed it absolutely right. It is anger, hostility, and rage. You might be very well aware of the narcissistic rage if you have been with a narcissist. You must or at least try to stay away from the narcissistic rage if you want peace. But when you ghost a narcissist they would be bursting with anger. They would be so pissed that how could you ghost them without the slightest hint.
They would not bother to check what has gone wrong, or what you have opted for is because of them, or even think about your viewpoint. They would just be pissed when they are not able to reach you as they feel they have lost control and would just be worried about obtaining their supply. Their concern would not be related to you but only about supply. They would be so angry that it might even turn into an act of revenge.
When something triggers a narcissist, in this case, ghosting, their first reaction is aggression and hostility. Ghosting them may trigger a narcissist’s ill-intended side and thus they may act viciously or harshly. They would be all hyped up and agitated to reach you out.
2. They would find all possible means to reach you
If you block their number, they might try to reach you out through other phone numbers may be of a friend’s or a family member, or just might get a new sim. They would be desperate to end this ghosting situation as soon as possible so that they can obtain their supply. They would use all sorts of flattery and trickery to lure you for giving in. They would try to reach out to you and meet you, by taking the same routes of which they would be aware, the same mode of transportation, or might even wait outside your workplace or your residence just to mention their mere presence and convince you to get back with them.
3. They would resort to all means to work their way with you again
By implying all means here we are referring to anyway in which they might contact you. They would even not hesitate to reach out to your family members, friends, or anyone that you know to get the slightest hint about you. They can be creative at this point and just be ready to be surprised by unexpected ways through which they might try to get in touch with you once you start ghosting them.
4. They would attack you when you are vulnerable
Narcissists play a very dirty game in which they make you dependent and used to them that when you ghost them, you actually miss them. You would constantly be thinking about whether would they reach back to you if you really want to work things with them but just want to teach them a lesson by ghosting. You might get emotionally weak and actually start missing. These are the tough vulnerable times when you think of texting or calling them.
Narcissists would check in with your vulnerabilities and when they see you struggling or in hardships or even if they get the slightest hint of you missing them through any source; that is when they would lure you again by taking an advantage of your vulnerabilities. They would come back in your weaker or rough times so that you easily accept them again, forgetting the past scenario.
5. You can be a victim of a narcissistic hoovering
Narcissists try to hoover around their exes or anyone ghosting them and victimize them again, as they cannot let go easily. It can be really difficult to break up or ghost a narcissist as they can blackmail you, take revenge, or hoover around for a long period of time. They do this because they do not want to lose control over their source of supply. And also it is always difficult to date a narcissist due to their anger issues and unhealthy behavior so they have to be dependent on a lot of people to get their supply.
Hoovering is always intended for the emotional ex-partner that a narcissist tries to regain. It is the vulnerabilities that the narcissist takes an advantage of. They would try to remind you of them by their glimpses and presence.
6. They may even seek revenge
Narcissists are experts at getting revenge. When you try to ghost them, they would find the means to hurt you. They would be so worked up about them losing their grip and control of you that they might affirmatively seek revenge. They can try to make you jealous by immediately finding a new partner and showing you that they have already moved past you.
They may threaten you by sending you threats of harming themselves or using any of your belonging like pictures or anything that they can use against you to try and develop any contact with you.
7. They can be malicious
They can be malicious and resort to smearing your character or blaming you for wrong things. They would present such a perspective of you to people that people start thinking that it is you who has done the wrong and left the narcissist to be on their own. Narcissists can even stoop low and blackmail you. They would stalk you vividly and would not stop following you unless you give up the ghosting game.
8. They would find reasons to contact you
They would find reasons like getting a proper closure, seeking your help with something urgently, lying about being terminally ill, or resorting to any sort of made-up lie to just be in contact with you.
9. They will resort to manipulative tactics to change your mind
They would present themselves as a drastically changed individual than in the past. They would present their best version to lure you back. They might prove that they have changed and try to reach you as a better individual to get you back. But just remember narcissists and change often do not go hand in hand.
10. They would try reappearing in your life
There are many ways to reappear that they can resort to, they might lure you by making you vulnerable for physical intimacy, they would send you presents like flowers, chocolates, or anything dear to you to remind you that they still care for you or they would wait for their chance until your anger melts and you give up ghosting.
Will a narcissist come back after you have ghosted them?
The answer to this question is affirmative. A narcissist would come back for many reasons once you have ghosted them,
- They might come back as they wish to be the ones breaking things up and not you.
- They might simply come back to teach you a lesson for ghosting them.
- A narcissist would come back even if it is you who dumped them or ghosted them because they would take an act of revenge in the first place if they truly want to avenge you. But on the contrary, if they really felt any little connection with you, they would try to lure you into their toxic world one more time.
- A narcissist is always in search of supply, so a Narcissist would always want you to continue to pursue you even if you have ghosted them.
- Their fear of abandonment makes them come back crawling back to you even if you have ghosted them.
- A Narcissist craves physical intimacy. They would not tell you this upfront but would try to lure you into physical intimacy. They will try to lure you back even after you have ghosted them just to keep you as an option for intimacy.
- They need to feel better by sucking the positivity from you and pouring their negativity onto you. So they would definitely return after they have been ghosted by you.
Inference
Ghosting a narcissist may ensure your peace of mind for sure at least for a while or even for a long time.
Ghosting a narcissist means going completely no contact or an off-reach approach with them be it by deleting or blocking them on social media, blocking their phone number, not visiting places that you expect them to be, or even going to extreme limits like switching your grocery stores, taking different metros, or avoiding any activity that you think you might bump into them. Ghosting ensures that you keep your distance from them to give them the taste of their wrongdoings.
But when you ghost a narcissist just remember you are not seeking an act of hardcore revenge here. All you want is freedom from their abuse, be it either for a short while or permanently. Maybe you wish to give them a taste of their behavior for a while so you are just making your move by ghosting them.
Do not even make the ghosting look like a revenge scheme. Because once a narcissist activates the revenge mode, there will be no sparing. They might give you a hard time, and you might even be reciprocating for the choices you made. So just remember to be sure that this is not a revenge thing, all you want is your freedom and a break from the toxic cycle which is seldom ending when you are with a narcissist.
Also remember a narcissist would definitely come back for many reasons once you have ghosted them, so make up your mind firmly if you really wish to get rid of them from your life permanently. Do not show your vulnerabilities or even get weak.
From Relationship, Depression, and Personality Disorder to Narcissistic problems, I have helped a lot of people find their solutions. Upon gathering a number of common problems that people face, I decided to put the information on this blog so that anyone can get their answers easily.
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