How Does a Narcissist React when they cannot Control You? Everybody once in their lives has had to or is dealing with a Narcissist. If you are someone who is here to know a Narcissist’s reaction when they lose control, then stay tuned as this article is going to be beneficial for both, a Narcissist and a person who is facing them.
Who is a Narcissist?
A Narcissist is an individual who is excessively obsessed to have control over all situations in their life even moneywise too, control over all individuals and their behavior, and also expects everyone around the to focus just on them. They intend to be the center of attraction in all situations. A Narcissist person craves attention all the time, lacks care and empathy, can be rude and blunt, ignores other people’s feelings, and has troubled relationships.
How to spot a Narcissist?
Spotting a Narcissist can make it easy for a person to either deal with them in a better way or just ignore them completely. Let us know some key points to spot a Narcissist:
- They can be rude and always need to prove their point in every situation.
- Arrogance is their nature.
- Need constant attention and are desperate to gain it.
- Always showing off their achievements and talents.
- They lack sensitivity and empathy.
- They take advantage of others for their benefit.
- They merely care for other people’s feelings unless it involves them.
- They think people envy them.
- They have high levels of self-importance, self-esteem, and overconfidence.
- They think they are the center of the circle they are a part of.
- They are self-centric and need immediate attention.
- They always need praise, appreciation, and entitlement.
Things to keep in mind while dealing with a Narcissist:
- Staying calm can make a big difference while dealing with a Narcissist.
- Not using harsh words, can make it easy to deal with a Narcissist.
- Creating clear boundaries. This can make a Narcissist angry at first but can make a huge difference in the future for both.
- Knowing more about Narcissism can make it easy to deal with a Narcissist.
- Speaking up for oneself may affect the relationship with a Narcissist in the current scenario, but can ease up the conversation for the future.
Is it difficult to deal with a Narcissist?
Dealing with a Narcissist can be difficult. A Narcissist is a person who is not ready to accept their wrong or unhealthy behavior towards others, nor do they intend to change any time soon. So it can be a little difficult. But they do change if they really wish to and if other people deal calmly, transparently, and patiently with them. So there is no harm in giving them one more chance.
How Does a Narcissist React when they cannot Control You?
When a Narcissist cannot control you, they would be behaving more arrogantly and you might notice many changes in their behavior. They become the most difficult to deal with when they lose control. Let us know some points on, “How does a Narcissist React when they can’t Control You!”.
They will be more agitated and arrogant than their usual selves
When a Narcissist loses control over you, they feel more agitated. They will be more difficult to handle then. It is always better for you to stay calm or just you should not be taking anything personally no matter what they say. They will be saying such things which you might not be willing to hear, the Effects of Narcissists are worse on other persons. Just remember it is not your fault that they are calling names or throwing harsh points from the past at you. Just stay calm and be patient with them or just completely ignore them. This agitated behavior of a Narcissist might be dealt by these two ways.
They will be blaming all their fault on you
Dealing with a Narcissist? be ready for a long blame game. Despite all the arguments and verbal insults, Narcissists would definitely find a way to come back at you. They are experts in putting all the blame on others. Once they feel you are not going to be putting up with a Narcissist, they will find a way and make up all kinds of lies. Even though seems pretty clear who is at fault, a Narcissist would never take the blame and behave as if you are the one making all the mistakes. They point out others like,
- They might act all innocent despite being at fault and make an appealing point which may seem as if it is the mistake of the other person.
- They might just twist the complete fault and act like they are all innocent and it is the other person who is guilty.
They will never accept their mistake
A Narcissist will never accept their mistake, instead, they will just burden and pressurize you to believe that you are guilty and you make everything about yourself, while it is what they do. They always try to delegate the blame to others rather than accepting their rude and unhealthy behavior which indeed causes mistakes and glitches in a relationship.
Humiliating you would be next on their list
After losing control, a Narcissist would try all sorts of techniques to gain back control over you and the situation. One such technique includes humiliating you at the cost of your mental peace. Embarrassing you in front of a crowd or the people you might be acquainted with would be one of the ways utilized by a Narcissist to get back their control.
They might crack mean jokes, might also expose all your secrets, or might use you as an imaginary punch back with their humiliating punches in the face. A Narcissist can be as direct as possible, they even might point fingers at you and might also call you names.
They would do anything to break your confidence
When a Narcissist loses control over you, they would do anything to break your gained confidence and make you feel dependent. They would tell you all sorts of lies to gain back you after your withdrawal. They would pressurize the fact that they are the only ones who would be able to understand you and push you towards being convinced that no one knows you better than them. By any means, they would break your confidence and would not allow to withdraw you from the situation.
They would spread rumors and disregard your side of the story
A narcissist would not hesitate even once to spread rumors about you and would tell all sorts of stories and lies to turn people around you against you. They would wish all people just cut ties with you and then you have to rely on them. They would not allow people to know your side of the story. In such situations, do not get worried and feel lonely, as this is one of the techniques used by a Narcissist when they lose control over you. In such situations you should:
- Tell people your side of the story and have faith in you so that they do not abandon you with all the wrong ideas of you.
- Initially, a Narcissist might seem winning for some time, but eventually, people would notice the truth and would side with you.
They would always test your patience and probably trigger you until you freak out
A Narcissist would always test your patience and probably trigger you until you freak out. Thus they would blame you for certain situations that they have created when they lose control over you. One such example of such a situation can be, they would ask you all sorts of questions and would expect answers that they want to hear. This might not be what you probably want or would not want to answer or are not yet ready to answer. They would trigger you till you are agitated and then prove that you get freaked out always.
A Narcissist will always try to superimpose his or her ideas over yours. The moment you have to say something; they will try to show they can do it better. If you try to do something, they will deliver it better and only do their way. -Erica Fenty
As described by an author, a Narcissist would do anything to gain back control over you. In such cases spotting a Narcissist would be the best thing and creating a boundary would be best.
A Narcissist would use all sorts of techniques and might throw tantrums when they lose control over you. Spotting a Narcissist can make it easy for a person to either deal with them in a better way or just ignore them. If you are still unable to bear them, just create boundaries and be open about how they make you feel. Try to lessen your interaction if they are someone from work or a relative. But in a romantic relationship, there is only one way to face a narcissist: putting your points and being clear about what you feel.