What Does A Narcissist Think When You Do not Answer Their Text Messages?
What does a Narcissist think when you do not answer their text messages? Narcissists tend to have a hold over situations, people, and most of the happenings around them. They tend to be the elephant in the room with their controlling personalities, abusive nature, and an urge to gain the maximum from everyone.
So when it seems that you are ignoring a narcissist through your behavior, or just avoiding their texts for time being, or for some genuine reason even, the narcissist might not take this lightly or even make the slightest attempt to your situation or hear your side of the story. According to them, only them making an effort; in this case texting, is more important, and they get frustrated when you do not reply immediately as they have a feeling to be entitled to everything. So when you fail to reply immediately or delay replying to them, that is when you have to face the unwanted trouble of them troubling you constantly.
Narcissists lack understanding and they feel them spending time for you is the principal thing you need to be noticing leaving aside whatever you might be doing, so when you cannot respond to them immediately, their ego gets hurt and they feel ignored.
How is it texting a narcissist? – What is a narcissist text game?
Narcissists have charming personalities and they can be luring you into their narcissistic world when you are trying to date. Narcissists are not your regular dating partners, they are much more than that. They come with many questionable demands, and also their unforgettable charm. If you are attracted to a narcissist due to their charismatic and irresistible personalities, then yes it is possible that the narcissist might chase you until they get a grip over you. So the texting game with a narcissist can be really something new to you if you are associating with a narcissist for the first time.
Associating with a narcissist is itself challenging. You have to keep up with their unrealistic expectations, their tantrums, toxicity, and peculiar traits. One such thing is texting with a narcissist. They can just quill you in their words, dishonest actions and an artificial made-up would of their own.
Narcissists would either be texting too much or no texts at all. Sometimes it’s a long paragraph often manipulative, deceptive, or accusing sentences; while sometimes it’s just a word reply. When they are interested or need you the text lengths are more, and replies are quick and overwhelming, but when you need them they are not there often or would text just like they are entirely uninterested and make small talk.
Communicating with a narcissist can be a task in itself. As they need detailed explanations for the simplest of topics. They might take everything personally, change the entire course of the communication, understand the incorrect meaning of the things you are trying to communicate, might not even listen carefully and conclude abruptly to cut short the conversation, might not indulge in a conversation in the first place especially when they know it s going to be tedious, or just communicate when they need something, they have a favor to ask or fulfill their desires.
What does a Narcissist think when you do not answer their text messages?
- They feel they are being rejected or neglected
- Narcissists might react negatively or can also give a fake apology
- They may ignore you
- You may be a victim of their rage or the temper outburst
- They may move on from you and seek attention from someone else
- They would reach out to your family members and other known acquaintances to grab your attention
- They would stalk you
- They may try to induce themselves by devaluing you
- They will try their best manipulative tactics on you to get your attention back
- They may deny your importance in their life
- They may endanger your reputation
- They would show some temporary changes in their behavior just to get you back in their life
1. They feel they are being rejected or neglected
Rejecting or Ignoring a Narcissist or any of their actions like texts, calls or meet-ups is the ultimate way to make a narcissist feel dejected. Their boosted ego may come crashing down, once you reject them or simply ignore them. They feel neglected and also they fear abandonment.
But does it affect a narcissist when you ignore them or reject them? Yes! a narcissist fears rejection and hates ignorance. They feel the same as everyone; sad, fearful, and hateful when someone rejects and ignores them. But the only difference is their reaction. It does trigger them but they would not express it loudly. They would not demonstrate any loud reaction as this would make them seem benevolent. But deep down they might be feeling wrecked.
2. Narcissists might react negatively or can also give a fake apology
A negative reaction is an obvious reaction from a narcissist when you do something which is unpleasing for them. But Narcsist can be unpredictable sometimes. So when they realize that they have lost control over you by your action of not replying to them, they might not want to lose their source of supply, so they may try fake apologies if something is uneasy between you both.
When you know about the true nature of the narcissist, you might want to ignore them permanently or at least for as long as possible. If this is the case they would react negatively. They might even create hindrances for you like doing something to stop your promotion if you work together, asking you to pay all the bills if you both stay together, or they might block any positive opportunity coming the way that may be good for you.
So when you ignore a narcissist or their texts, they might fake apologize if your relationship is just beginning, but if you have already been with them and there is another reason for you ignoring them, then expect negativity and negative reactions from them. They would act gullible and would be ready to change for you. But remember gullibility does not suit a narcissist and they would show hardly any changes once they have your attention. They would do anything to lull your ignorance.
3. They may ignore you
When you ignore a narcissist or their texts, they might ignore you even more. Narcissists know their ways to get back to you, especially if you have displeased them in any way or hurt their pride. There can be many more reasons for a narcissist to get back at you. One such way of them getting back at you is through ignorance or completely devaluing your presence.
If you have been with a narcissist, then you might be familiar with the silent treatment, the no-answers zone, or the ignoring phase when there are any issues, inconveniences, and misunderstandings in the relationship. Being with a narcissist is as is tough and it needs a lot of perseverance to keep the relationship going with them.
4. You may be a victim of their rage or the temper outburst
If you live together, and if you keep ignoring the narcissist, then be ready to face their rage. Even if you do not live together, but are connected somehow through a mutual workplace or any other way then also be ready to face their temper tantrum whenever you meet up face to face.
Narcissists cannot bear when they lose control of the situation. They might have expected that you would forgive them readily if something is wrong between you both, but when the situation turns another way around and you still ignore them, their first instinct would be to lash out. They can be brutal and say some things that you might not want to hear.
When you ignore a narcissist, they would definitely have a temper outburst. They would be so pissed with you that you have chosen to do something without their permission and they have no control over the situation. They might definitely try to get back at you. Temper tantrums are a result of their unattended needs and something different from what they might have expected.
5. They may move on from you and seek attention from someone else
Narcissistic supply is one of the prime reasons for them to date commit to a relationship. They do not have love or commitment as the first priority, their first priority is obtaining their supply, once they know you are ignoring them they might find someone else to be their source of supply. Narcissists also have their own stock of narcissistic supply.
6. They would reach out to your family members and other known acquaintances to grab your attention
Once you ignore a narcissist by ignoring their texts, and calls, or even deny meeting them, that’s the time they start noting you with extra attention or reaching out to family members, friends, colleagues, or any acquaintances just to know your whereabouts and your next moves. Narcissists hate it when they lose control. This is the last thing they want, losing control over you. Their wish may be grabbing your attention by all means.
7. They would stalk you
When narcissists run out of ways to gain your attention, they might resort to unconventional means like stalking. This is an uncommon behavior though, but you cannot judge a narcissist. So be prepared mentally. They might show up at places like your workplace, stalk you through social media, and even post something which is unfavorable to you. So always be careful while dealing with a narcissist.
8. They may try to induce themselves by devaluing you
When you ignore a narcissist by ignoring their texts, calls, or anyway, they take this as a hint and would just ignore you more. They would not take this as a sign that the problem might have been with them, instead, they would feel superior and compare you with their standards. They might feel that they are too good for you anyhow and it is better that you are not with them as their dating partner or involved with them any longer. They would devalue you and induce themselves as much better than you. They believe that they deserve someone much better than you.
When you do something to upset a narcissist, in this case ignoring their texts, they would just forget everything good that you have done for them, and only focus on the bad side of you. They would devalue you in the relationship and they would just overlook your worthiness in the relationship as they think that they are the most important person in the relationship and their partners are just lucky to have them. So something done by you against them upsets them, they would just forget how you have been there for them in the relationship.
9. They will try their best manipulative tactics on you to get your attention back
A narcissist can do anything to impress you and get your attention. They would try to use flattery to anything that might gain your attention once more and you stop ignoring them. From love bombing you, stalking you, following you, surprising you, breaking your confidence, showing your dependency on them, emotional manipulation, to all sorts of tactics, a narcissist would not back off until they notice some progress in their endeavors and gain your attention.
They would even try to compliment you, try to remind you how lucky they are to have you, would tell all sorts of lies to gain your attention when you ignore them. They can also make it seem that you are dependent on them for many activities, and your survival would be jeopardized without them.
10. They may deny your importance in their life
When you ignore a narcissist, they make you feel low. They would not be sad, instead, they would make you feel low, that you have done something wrong, and that you are rejecting someone very great. Narcissists have a tendency to hide or not express any feelings when you reject them. Ignorance does trigger a narcissist but they would not express it loudly. They would avoid a loud reaction as this would make them seem benevolent. They would make you feel small and dispirited and they may deny your importance in their life.
When you act according to your wishes, do not value a narcissist’s opinions, and do not give them required importance in your lie, that is when they devalue your worth by completely ignoring what you have to say or whatever you do.
11. They may endanger your reputation
They would say things like, “Anyways you do not deserve someone like me”, or “I am better off without you” for their vindication against your ignorance. They might even spread rumors about them rejecting you when the situation is another way around. They might say things that are not true about you so that you are neglected by all your acquaintances or friends. They would be unhappy about the whole situation and may also jinx you. But do not worry, people notice the truth eventually and you might lose nothing in the end.
12. They would show some temporary changes in their behavior just to get you back in their life
Narcissists do change a little from time to time, as change is inevitable for everyone, but their core personality and traits would remain the same, and also the changes can be only surface level. So when you ignore a narcissist’s text messages, they might fake the changes of being a better version of themselves and also just remember the positive changes that you might notice can be for a short period of time or surface-level changes, they might return to how they used to be in a short time once they have your attention.
In Conclusion
A narcissist can not take ignorance. Rage becomes their coping mechanism for anything displeasing like ignorance.
So when it seems that you are ignoring a narcissist through your behavior, or just avoiding their texts for time being, or for some genuine reason even, the narcissist might not take this lightly or even make the slightest attempt to your situation or hear your side of the story. According to them, only them making an effort; in this case texting, is more important, and they get frustrated when you do not reply immediately as they have a feeling to be entitled to everything. So when you fail to reply immediately or delay replying to them, that is when you have to face the unwanted trouble of them troubling you constantly.
Narcissists lack understanding and they feel them spending time for you is the principal thing you need to be noticing leaving aside whatever you might be doing, so when you cannot respond to them immediately, their ego gets hurt and they feel ignored.
What does a Narcissist think when you don’t answer their text messages? – A narcissist fear and hates ignorance. They feel the same as everyone; sad, fearful, and hateful when someone ignores them. But the only difference is their reaction. It does trigger them but they would not express it loudly. But usually, a narcissist would not demonstrate any loud reaction as this would make them seem benevolent.
From Relationship, Depression, and Personality Disorder to Narcissistic problems, I have helped a lot of people find their solutions. Upon gathering a number of common problems that people face, I decided to put the information on this blog so that anyone can get their answers easily.
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