Do Narcissists Leave you for Another Person? (Will They Ever Come Back after doing this?)

by Ella Carrillo · January 7, 2023

Do Narcissists leave you for another person? Will they ever come back after doing this? If you are dating a narcissist, and you do note some changes in their behavior that suggests they are no longer interested in what you have to offer, then that can be a sign of cheating as they would have found a new supply; thus we will be acknowledging you with some Narcissist cheating signs you should not deny or not even ignore, if at all if you feel they have changed. And also answer the question, “Do Narcissists leave you for another person?”

This article may provide answers to the delusional question of can a narcissist leaves you for someone else or if will they come back to you somehow. After knowing all the possibilities, if you are sure you do not want to continue the relationship with them, just take them as red flags and detach yourself from the toxic relationship that you are in!

Not all narcissists cheat or may leave you for someone else, but according to a common human tendency to doubt when in conflict or uncertainty of situation may lead us to illusions many times. But also this is true in the case of a narcissist, as narcissists have a personality and character build-up that shouts falseness, disloyalty, and breach of trust out loud.

Narcissists often choose to lie over spilling the truth, and thus it is a common belief that narcissists cheat and are categorized as deceitful. To cheat or not to cheat completely depends upon the character development, life conduct, and choices of an individual, but sometimes some misconceptions and false beliefs may force us to conduct something which is not a part of our regular lifestyle like cheating. And thus there may be a few cases where narcissists are found to be cheating upon their partners, leaving them for someone else, or playing the game of dating and manipulating the feelings of more than one person at the same time.

Narcissists can be the most self-centered beings sometimes and one of the most amazing beings but ultimately all relations they have or every relationship with them is just about them and their benefits. If it benefits a narcissist until then only they would be helping you out, considering you important, or would give weightage to you otherwise, they just forget that you even matter. They can make you feel that you seldom make a difference in their life, or your existence is transactional, and would completely ignore you when they are done with you.

Do Narcissists Leave you for another Person?

Falseness, lack of trust, breach of commitments, and disloyalty are some of the narcissistic traits that are an integral part of their character and personality. They even have control issues and so they can’t control their nasty desires, materialistic needs, and physical intimacy needs. They may leave you when they find someone better than you or for fulfilling their magnified needs for lovemaking. To fulfill their empty and shallow life, narcissists gain attention, praise, and whatever they need to present their grandiosity of life. So if they are getting all of these needs fulfilled by someone else in a better manner they might leave you.

If they are bored with you then also they might leave you. If you pressurize them to be bound by matrimonial rituals or responsibilities like childbearing then they may run away from those and find someone new and get their needs fulfilled. Narcissistic have a dating loop that is almost never-ending until they desire to settle down.

Narcissists even get easily bored and dissatisfied with their partner, once they feel their source of supply has been drained, so they might leave you for another person sooner or later. Narcissists do not have empathy leading them to completely ignore another person’s emotions and prioritize their nasty desires over their partner’s feelings.

They might cheat on you or leave you for another person when the narcissist feels that the charm and chase are over, the excitement and lust are gone, and the purpose (whatever they have been using you for like money, physical intimacy, just to cop with their former breakup or a fresh supply) is over, and they finally can no longer use you for their gains; these can be some of the most common reasons why narcissist would cheat on you.

What is the dating cycle of narcissists?

There are 3 phases of dating a Narcissist:

1. Attraction or Idealization Phase

The Attraction or Idealization phase is the step where they spot you and grab your attraction, like spotting a target for obtaining their supply.

2. Devaluation Phase

Once they gain your complete trust, this is when they start playing with your feelings and thoughts by using their manipulative tactics. This is the phase when they would suck the positivity out of you and drain you.

3. Discard Phase or Rejection Phase

The Discard phase is nothing but the time when a narcissist uses you completely until their satisfaction like their puppet, and when they no longer need you or find someone else they just discard you like something unimportant. This is the phase when they usually start cheating on you or probably leave you for someone else and this cycle keeps on repeating like it’s a loop. In this, they degrade or devalue you like from the most important person in their life to the least important person.

They would be so into you at the beginning of the relationship that they would idolize you, then when they have your trust they would start the devaluation phase where they isolate you and make you completely involved just with them making you almost dependent and then they treat you like you were never important once their purpose is done with you. Their initial commitments and promises are so fake but seem real. But they are just for the namesake as narcissists never carry through them. They gaslight you, make you feel at fault and you might even doubt your sanity.

When a narcissist feels that they have lost interest or you might be thinking of moving forward, they would drop breadcrumbs in the form of love-bombed sweet texts, emojis, comments, or even calls, just to lure you back in. They would have hidden, trustworthy, coy, selfish agendas behind breadcrumbing you.

Why might a Narcissist leave you for another person or cheat? – Reasons for cheating

Narcissists have an elevated sense of entitlement which makes them feel superior and allows them to behave as they wish without considering anyone’s feelings. Sometimes their conduct may even cross the social bounds of society. They are desire-driven beings who let their desires, lust, and pleasure control them.
Narcissists do not like being bound by rules of matrimony or by boundaries of responsibilities. So marriage, childbearing, making new relations, or taking responsibility are not their usual deals and so they cheat and often bolt away to hide from responsibilities.
Narcissists are not good while dealing with truth, feelings, vulnerabilities, commitments, and confrontations. So when they feel they are being trapped in the matrimonial rules by their partner, they often release their tension with someone else, where they can just ignore all the responsibilities at least for a while.
Narcissists have a tendency to use people for their needs and desires. They just seek attention and control. So when they feel a lack of narcissistic supply from you, they may cheat on you with someone who is full of narcissistic supply. (Supply here refers to giving them attention, praising their accomplishments, providing a sense of entitlement and validation whether it is positive or negative, providing special treatment, meeting their needs and demands, and making them the center of your world.)
Narcissists are often not satisfied by little, they need everything best and accomplished. They are greedy. So when they come across someone who is more accomplished, has more monetary resources, and is better than their current partner, they might leave you for someone else.
Narcissists are usually materialistic and obsessed with everything which makes their social image lustrous. Money is one such factor that can fulfill all their materialistic desires, thus they can be consumed by money, fame, and praise. They like to be celebrated loud and lustrous to boost their ego. Even if it is fake, they need praise in a notable manner, and sometimes money can get you that. So they chase money and everyone and everything related to it. So even if it includes cheating, they would not hesitate once.
They can get easily bored with you and might find someone out of boredom just for having some fun, and thus cheat on their current partner.

What are some indications or signs that can uncover a narcissist’s cheating methods?

There can be many minute signs that can indicate their cheating patterns and loss of interest in you. But the below-mentioned points are some of the crucial hints that you should not ignore. These can be indications of a narcissist cheating or these points can be enough for you to start questioning your relationship.

Abrupt behavioral changes
Telling innumerable amount of lies
An unforeseen drop in communication
Canceling plans at the last minute
They would avoid dealing with you and always request personal space

1. Abrupt behavioral changes

Going shopping, buying extensively, spending more money, grooming properly, not answering calls in front of you, not checking their phone when you are around, coming late from work, eating out more often, going on business trips more often, and many more. If you notice any such changes in your narcissistic partner, then do not be surprised if you think they are cheating on you. They are! Just make sure of your suspicion and leave the toxic relationship.

These behavior changes may happen suddenly when a narcissist detects that you are suspecting them. But consider these as your red flags and take action as soon as possible as you do not want to be the use-and-throw toy for your partner.

2. Telling innumerable amount of lies

A narcissist always feels the need to dominate the situation, try to be the elephant in the room, or try to cover up the truth by all means and all the time, so this is when they resort to all sorts of lies without considering any other fact. As lying becomes their shield to protect their fragile ego and their truth of cheating on you.

Lying is their natural instinct thus it becomes their natural habit while they are cheating too. They would always lie about their whereabouts, whom they are with when they would be returning, or simply about everything that can reveal their truth.

3. An unforeseen drop in communication

Narcissists would avoid talking to you, avoid conversations that can be deep, and they would always be making small talk and never really have time to converse with you when you want to have a chat with them.

If you live together, they would avoid talking to you, just answer whatever you ask, and would never initiate communication. If you are not living together, then they would never text your first, it is always you who is checking on them. They would not pick up your calls, avoid meeting you and always put you on seen for messages.

4. Canceling plans at the last minute

If this often happens to you, you are all set to go out, and then you get a call from the narcissistic partner that they wouldn’t be able to show up due to certain reasons. They would not even mention the reason, just avoid meeting you. And when you ask the reason, they would get worked up. They would simply make excuses for many upcoming weeks or months so that you don’t make future plans with them.

5. They would avoid dealing with you and always request personal space

They would be disappearing for days from your life completely without informing you about their whereabouts. They would not answer any questions about their whereabouts and lash out at you that you don’t trust them and would blame all on you. They would always initiate fights when this topic comes up. They would be MIA(Missing in Action) for hours. They would make all kinds of excuses to get away for several days.

They would always be demanding personal space when you try to question them. It is their way of saying to ask you to keep your distance from them and give them space to breathe. They would ask for privacy in all matters and would not even care to give justifications for their disruptive actions.

These are major pointers that indicate the signs of a cheating narcissist. They may leave you for another person in many cases, but this is uncommon for all narcissists. Not all narcissists cheat, but due to their disloyal nature, you may trust them completely initially, but due to their suspicious actions, you may start losing trust and faith.

Will a narcissist come back after cheating or leaving you for another person? – Will they ever come back after doing this?

A narcissist would not want to cut ties completely with you even after cheating on you or dating someone else. As they think you might be of some use to them in future. Narcissists would simply not cut all ties with you and would leave some loose ends, through which they can be associated again.

Narcissists linger around you for a while even after leaving you for someone else to check how you are doing. They never completely cut ties with their exes, until they have completely benefitted from you. They do not feel guilty or repent after breaking up but their only fear is the lack of supply. They do tend to keep contact with their exes or even try to be together again after breaking up or giving silent treatment, to satisfy their ego. They want to know how miserable you are after they have left you!

A narcissist can come back after leaving you for several reasons which are mentioned below,

A narcissist never wants to lose control over you.
They always want to keep you as a backup option.
They would want to keep a door open for physical intimacy.
They might come back when they want some monetary gains from you.
Narcissists can be the most difficult people, so they may come around to gain emotional support from you.
They would come back to obtain their dose of narcissistic supply.

Inference

They may leave you for another person in many cases, but this is uncommon for all narcissists. Not all narcissists cheat, but due to their disloyal nature, you may trust them completely initially, but due to their suspicious actions, you may start losing trust and faith.

They might cheat on you or leave you for another person when the narcissist feels that the charm and chase are over, the excitement and lust are gone, and the purpose (whatever they have been using you for like money, physical intimacy, just to cop with their former breakup or a fresh supply) is over, and they finally can no longer use you for their gains. But they may also come around as narcissists who are very selfish and are known to manipulate your feelings.

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Ella Carrillo

Hey Reader, I am Ella, an Online and Offline Therapist holding an experience of 6 years in this field.

From Relationship, Depression, and Personality Disorder to Narcissistic problems, I have helped a lot of people find their solutions. Upon gathering a number of common problems that people face, I decided to put the information on this blog so that anyone can get their answers easily.

Do Narcissists Leave you for Another Person? (Will They Ever Come Back after doing this?)