The reaction of a Narcissist When He/She Sees You Cry (Every Narcissist Do this)
What would be the reaction of a Narcissist when He/She Sees You cry? Does a narcissist get affected at all when you cry? Narcissists do not react usually to any emotional responses, so this question is supposedly ambiguous. How would a narcissist react to your tears? Would they be supportive or disregard it? Let us know the answers to these questions further in this article.
There is no or equal to null emotional bonding when you have a narcissistic partner. They have constant mood swings and emotional tantrums. So there is always a lack of emotional support and constant emotional manipulation. A narc partner would manipulate you. So is it easy to know about the real feelings of a narcissistic partner? Even when talking about your feelings, a narcissist would not care much to comfort you or reciprocate your feelings. So having a narcissistic partner is not a blessing in particular, because the narcissist does is only cares about their feelings and mocks you or just ignores your feelings.
Even in some hard times when you feel all gloomy, or down, or having some emotional turmoil and you feel like shedding tears, there can be an unexpected creation from a narcisist. You cannot even cry in front of a narcisist without being judged, mocked off, ignored, or simply annoyed. Thee can be any wild reaction that a narcisist can show when you cry. They can fake comforting you, but it is just meant for a few seconds before you snap and find yourself alone most of the time in your gloomy days or hard times.
The reaction of a Narcissist When He/She Sees You Cry
They would find it sadistically pleasing or some kind of sadistic pleasure when you shed tears because of them in front of them.
There are a lot of reactions that you can expect from a narcissist at your gloomy time when you cry. Seeing you cry can be sometimes enjoyable for a narcissist or even they can be cold and just ignore you. Rather than comforting you, narcisist can often be annoyed by your weeping, or they can just snap at you. They can also judge you for being soft, can make fake apologies for the time being to make you stop crying, can just turn a blind eye to the crying, can make it about themselves as usual, or just leave you weeping.
You can not just expect any particular reaction from a narcisist when you cry, as a narcissist would be nice and supportive though it may be all fake at first when they want you in their life, with time passing they may not care when you cry, as they can be cold-hearted and would not be bothered, or just be blank as an empty slate as by that time you would be familiar with a narcissist’s tactics just to obtain their supply.
The only go-to emotion or reaction that you can expect from a narcisist when you cry is anger. A narcisist is incapable of regulating or understanding emotions, and the only way they know to deal with you is by yelling or being worked up. Sadly, do not expect any emotional reaction that you would expect from a person normally when you cry; especially from a narcisist. Because you would solely be disappointed and would be left feeling more dejected than you already are.
Should you cry in front of a narcissist?
Narcisist would be happy indeed or feel good when you cry because they know they are the reason for your sadness. Yes! it is true in many cases that a narcissist feels more captivated or enchanted when they see you cry. They would like that feeling that you are crying because of them. Because they know they have still control over you or they feel empowered by doing so. They would find it sadistically pleasing or some kind of sadistic pleasure when you shed tears because of them in front of them.
So if you want to teach a lesson to a narcissist, maybe you can shed some tears, make them realize their mistake, or just lose some emotional baggage and the weight you might do for your own good. But crying in front of a narcissist would not make any difference in their behavior. As narcissists never tend to change or accept their mistakes, because according to them they are never wrong, and it is all your fault usually.
Now let us discuss some reactions that you can expect from a narcisist when he/she sees you crying!
The reaction of a Narcissist When He/She Sees You Cry
- Be ready for being judged
- Fake apologies and repentance
- They would be annoyed
- They would be displaying forged Empathy
- Distracting you with their own baloney
- Diverting you off-topic
- Lashing at you
- Mockery
- Pretence to prove there is nothing wrong and it is just an exaggeration from your end
- Sadistic Pleasure
- Being turned on or using intimacy trying to use your vulnerability
The reaction of a Narcissist When He/She Sees You CryNarcissists would just be using negative empathy to make you stop crying. Forged Empathy is one of their tools to manipulate you.
1. Be ready for being judged
When you cry a narcissist would judge by giving pretense looks, mouthing some judgemental words like “why”; or just rolling their eyes at you sighing. They would say mean sentences like, “What again?”, “Why are you being so wimpy again?”, “Who did this to you?” – despite knowing that it is because of them you are crying, but they would pretend to be naive and not take any blame or responsibility and act all innocent. They would judge you for being soft and fragile or also being a crybaby.
2. Fake apologies and repentance
Remorse, repentance, change, guilt, or forgiveness are mere words for a narcissist. They would be acting all gullible and would show fake repentance until you stop crying. They do not have any sense of dejection after doing anything wrong. They would just show that they are having trouble seeing you sad or for doing whatever they have done and are repentant, but it is all an act.
They would give you all kinds of fake apologies, let us know some examples,
- “I am not very very proud of what I have done to hurt you, but that was not that of a big deal that you are making out of it. So please forgive me and let us move on.”
- “Sorry for being a little broad and putting my opinions, I was not aware you would get offended by just this”.
- I am sorry for being out-spoken, or maybe you are just a little too sensitive.”
- “Anyways what is done is bygone, would be careful next time, so let us keep this behind us and move past this incident.”
As you can see their apologies are also not heartfelt. Here also they would be blaming you or pointing out that maybe it is you who is at fault and not them. Their apologies are also intimidating and repentance is just an act. So do not fall victim to this, be bold and discuss the problem openly and make them realize their mistake.
3. They would be annoyed
When you express your problems with them by the means of crying, a narcisist would be annoyed by the wave of annoying emotions that is coming their way. They see crying as one of the annoying emotions that would create a bothersome experience for them.
Instead of comforting you, they would be annoyed. their voice would be shrill, they would say some edgy sentences which would trigger you. You would notice disappointment in all their actions or words they say and them constantly wishing when would you stop crying internally. You cannot hear their inner annoying sentences like, “Why crying again?”, or “When will this end?” out loud, but those would all be visible in what they do indeed.
4. They would be displaying forged Empathy
Narcissists are incapable of understanding and exchanging feelings with others. They are self-obsessed and self-absorbed. They can not think from anyone else’s viewpoint. They would use false or forged empathy to show how pity they feel towards you and they would do anything to make you feel better.
Narcissists would just be using negative empathy to make you stop crying. Forged Empathy is one of their tools to manipulate you. A narcissist would resort to using flattery in terms of care, love, and bonding.
They would be forging empathetic words like,
- “I am sorry for making you shed tears, I wish you did not have to go through that.” (These words are nothing more than shallow sentences, but deep down they would just be wishing that you would stop crying.)
5. Distracting you with their own baloney
A narcissist would try to make every situation about themselves. Even here in this situation, when you are crying, they would start saying about their own miseries, or how they have been hurt after hurting you. They would start mentioning all their problems to you and so they behaved the way they behaved.
They would disregard the fact that you are miserable because of them and just focus on stopping you from crying. Do not get distracted by their flattery or baloney.
6. Diverting you off-topic
When you would be pointing out mistakes, a narcissist would just change the topic, would try to divert you by using either intimacy or bringing your favorite topic into the picture.
When you bring the truth before the narcissist they would change the topic or just show you a mirror of words or the projection of their thoughts on you which will make you believe that they are the victim here for all of your blames. They can completely sabotage and change such situations. For instance,
When you try to tell them that the bond between you is deteriorating and they are not spending time with you. Instead of listening to you, they would tell you “You are busy and not them and they just appear readily when you call them”, or “You don’t have time for them but they are available”. In the reality, it would be them who would be avoiding all emotional attachments with you so avoiding spending time with you.
7. Lashing at you
Anger is the ultimate reaction of a narcissist to all kinds of problems. Rather than comforting you, narcisist can often be annoyed by your weeping, or they can just snap at you. A narcisist is incapable of regulating or understanding emotions, and the only way they know to deal with you is by yelling or being worked up. Sadly, do not expect any emotional reaction that you would expect from a person normally when you cry; especially from a narcisist. Because you would solely be disappointed and would be left feeling more dejected than you already are.
8. Mockery
Mockery is a common tool for narcs because they enjoy looking down on emotionally controlled people. They would smirk or laugh at you and feel happy inside as they enjoy such situations when they feel powerful.
9. Pretence to prove there is nothing wrong and it is just an exaggeration from your end
Pretence and no true feelings are the prime game played by a narcissist. They would just as if you are exaggerating every situation and they would make you believe that their behavior is ideal and you are crying for nothing. Playing the victim card is the ultimate tactic and projection used by a narcissist. When something you said or does (like crying and pointing out their mistake)triggers a narcissist or points out their wrongdoing; they cannot take this in any circumstances.
10. Sadistic Pleasure
Narcisist would be happy indeed or feel good when you cry because they know they are the reason for your sadness. Yes! it is true in many cases that a narcissist feels more captivated or enchanted when they see you cry. They would like that feeling that you are crying because of them. Because they know they have still control over you or they feel empowered by doing so. They would find it sadistically pleasing or some kind of sadistic pleasure when you shed tears because of them in front of them.
11. Being turned on or using intimacy trying to use your vulnerability
Your vulnerability or your weakness like crying can turn on a narcissist. When you cry, they sense that you need intimacy, and it proves your loneliness. They feel they are more powerful in situations that actually make you weak like crying. So in such situations, they would change the ambiance by luring you into physical intimacy.
They would try to distract you by hiding their mistakes in the veil of physical intimacy. By doing so they would try to prove how much you need them and are dependent on them.
12. Would make them feel more important
When you cry in front of a narcissist, it would make them feel special. Your tears prove that you would not leave them even if they do anything to make you feel devastated. It is like making you cry satisfies their egos. Narcissists have low self-esteem and the lowest capacity to acknowledge insecurities and wrongdoings. They often fail in addressing their insecurities and wrongdoings, so when you do that they feel they are losing their importance. And would do anything to dominate the relationship.
Inference
Narcissists do not give a tinker’s damn about you crying. Simply they either enjoy it or are annoyed and angry about that. Crying in front of a narcissist would not make any difference in their behavior. As narcissists never tend to change or accept their mistakes, because according to them they are never wrong, and it is all your fault usually.
Narcissists would just be using negative empathy to make you stop crying. Forged Empathy is one of their tools to manipulate you. A narcissist would resort to using flattery in terms of care, love, and bonding.
Narcissists would find it sadistically pleasing or some kind of sadistic pleasure when you shed tears because of them in front of them.
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