How to mess with a Narcissist and push their Buttons? Everyone deserves mental peace and happiness. So sometimes you need to act against a narcissist when you are done with their constant manipulation and use their tactics against them. So it is fair sometimes to mess with them or push their buttons as they always do with their victims.
You can beat a narcissist in their own game by just a few simple steps like not validating them, ignoring them, not seeking their advice, dismissing what they say, throwing facts straight at their face, proving them incorrect, not giving them attention, crushing their ego, scoop their original personality right in from them, outrun supply, and a few more. These are some of the ways in which you can confound a narcissist in their own game by using certain tactics which can piss them off easily, mess with their head, and might even push some of their buttons.
Though pissing them, messing with them, or pushing some of the buttons may elevate your mental peace and can even bring a little joy, defeating them at their own game may result in some changes that are favorable to you in rare cases. But that can also be your fantasy as pissing off a narcissist to visualize some changes in them can be just a futile effort. Narcissists do not change.
What is a Narcissist?
A Narcissist is an individual who is excessively obsessed to have control over all situations in their life, control over all individuals and their behavior, and also expects everyone around the to focus just on them. They intend to be the center of attraction in all situations.
Narcissists always want their ways to work out and project certain behavior onto others. That projection often includes their thoughts and thinking patterns. Also do not be surprised when a narcissistic act a little strange, as it may be normal behavior for them but not you.
A Narcissist person craves attention all the time, lacks care and empathy, can be rude and blunt, ignores other people’s feelings, and has troubled relationships. Narcissists can play mind tricks and manipulate you. They can easily manipulate you by mirroring any personality trait that you desire and deceiving you.
If you are dealing with a narcissist or have dealt with one at any point in time then you might be familiar with narcissistic traits and how they lure their victims to feed on them emotionally. When narcissists desire something, then by any means they need to pertain to that.
What are some traits through which you can spot a narcissist?
- Lack of sensitivity and empathy.
- Exaggerates situations to intensify their worth, accomplishments, or even difficulties.
- Are self-centric.
- Are obsessed with materialistic desires and appearances.
- Blame others for their mistakes.
- Have unhealthy relationships.
- Have regular mood swings.
- Arrogance and anger is their first reaction to any problems.
- Hate changes and also cannot take criticism well.
- Are emotionally unstable and unavailable with low self-esteem.
- Jealousy is one of the many arrows in their quiver.
- Takes advantage of others easily.
- Are abusive both mentally and verbally.
- Lack of self-awareness and self-reflection.
- Always expect more from others.
- Are in constant need of validation.
Narcissists have a tendency to use people for their needs and desires. They just seek attention and control. They believe the world revolves around them and they are entitled to have whatever they desire. Hypocrisy is their go-to trait. Selfishness is in their true nature, and they would do anything to seek benefit from you. They ought to keep in touch with their exes even and also do not hesitate to lure them into new relationships despite their commitment to their life partner.
How to Mess with a Narcissist and Push Their Buttons?
Narcissists being the most difficult to handle, let us know some ways to mess with them psychologically and how to push their buttons to piss them off. Narcissists also need a taste of their own tea for all the harassment and inconvenience they have caused you, so let us know some ways to mess with them psychologically and how to push their buttons to piss them off.
Ways to mess with a Narcissist
- Being unpredictable
- Be boring and inattentive toward them
- Learn to say “No” and start using denial as your defense mechanism
- Walk away while they are talking to you
- Cut off communication with them
- Steal the spotlight from them
- Being their biggest competitor
- Communicating without the involvement of many reactions
1. Being unpredictable
Do not let the narcissist in your life to know your next move or do not let them know about your immediate reactions and actions. Narcissists always act accordingly to get your reactions which are mostly praiseworthy. Do not praise them, or do not act according to their conceptions and perceptions of you. Just be unpredictable and look at them go nuts when they cannot figure out your reactions.
2. Be boring and inattentive toward them
The narcissist treats their victims as their playthings or their sources of entertainment. They always want you to entertain them, spice up their life by providing them supply, and give your attention to them. But when you do not have anything to entertain them, narcissists would be perplexed and leave you alone. When you act all boring and uninterested and when you do not give them attention, narcissists would be super pissed or get irritated and would try to get reactions and actions from you.
3. Start saying “No” and start using denial as your defense mechanism
“No” is the word that a narcissist cannot take. Do not fulfill any of their requests, or run no more errands for them. Be straightforward and do not hesitate to say a firm no. Saying no is very important for you to live peacefully. When you say no, it hurts their fragile ego, and they start to feel less important which messes with their head.
If they ask you to help them, you can clearly state that you would not help, or just utilize denial as your defense mechanism when they try to control or suck the positivity out of you. Denying them multiple times would ensure that they have lost control over you and that you no longer want to be their prey. As narcissists need total control, and when you deny it, this would stir a storm in their minds as losing control is the last thing they want.
4. Walk away while they are talking to you
The narcissist has an intimidating habit of making everyone listen to what they say. They consider that what they say is only of great importance and that other people lack the level of intelligence they have. They have an opinion on every topic or every action of yours. They would badger you with their opinions and perspectives disregarding yours. So cutting them or dismissing their comments would just piss them and their reactions would be full of arrogance as their fragile ego would be hurt. Just try to walkway while they are still talking and watch them being pissed and messed up.
5. Cut off communication with them
Not being able to reach you is a big turn-off or piss-off moment for a narcissist. So use this opportunity to your benefit. When you feel you cannot take a narcissist anymore or need a break from their toxicity, just go no contact or block them. Do not pick up calls, block them from social media, or just do not meet them. This can just set off a narcissist.
Give the silent treatment to a narcissist, they would just be vexed by your behavior. Narcissists are the most self-centered beings and every relationship you have with them is just about them and their benefits. So going no contact or cutting contact with them from time to time from a narcissist is very important for you in the relationship to hold your ground.
6. Steal the spotlight from them
Stealing a narcissist’s spotlight is the last thing they would want and wish for. So the best thing you can do to mess with their mind is steal their spotlight.
7. Being their biggest competitor
When you are in a relationship with a narcissist everything you do together may seem like a competition. They want to be better at everything than you. For instance, if you both have the same workplace and are colleagues, they would do anything to perform better than you and get a promotion. Or if you succeed more than them, they would be jealous and fight over you.
In healthy relationships, this would not be the case, both partners would be equal and there would be healthy competition. But when in a relationship with a narcissist, always expect unhealthy competition. So in this case, challenge them and perform better than them, this situation is going to be miserable for them. Being their biggest competitor would just throw them off their right mind and would mess with their mind.
8. Communicating without the involvement of many reactions
“No reaction is a big reaction for a narcissist” Without providing any reaction to their toxic and unbearable behavior is a big piss-off moment for a narcissist. It proves that they no longer matter to you.
Showing no emotions is a great way to prove your point in an argument with a narcissist. Exaggerating the situation and making a fuss is a narcissistic thing. A narcissist always expects a loud and outgrowing reaction from you, so when just remaining calm would create havoc in a narcissist’s mind.
Ways to piss off a Narcissist – How to Push Their Buttons?
- Setting firm boundaries
- Throwing facts or factual data straight at their face
- Hurting their Pride and Ego
- Talking to other people and making new friends
- Make them lose their control
- Gaslighting them
- Criticizing them
- Acknowledge yourself how their behavior is wrong and you are victimized
1. Setting firm boundaries
A Narcissist person craves attention all the time, lacks care and empathy, can be rude and blunt, ignores feelings, and has troubled relationships. So to put up with them, or bear with them somehow is only possible by creating firm boundaries with them.
Making your requirements or boundaries of acceptable and unacceptable behavior is a must while dealing with a narcissist. They would simply walk all over you if you do not create some limitations and boundaries. Expecting change from a narcissist is nearly impossible but at least how you should be treated and can be treated is in your hands. This can totally piss them off but would bring you a little respect in the relationship.
Drawing clear boundaries would ensure that a narcissist has no longer control over you & your money and that you can ask them to behave the way you want. What is clearing boundaries? It means you can ask a narcissist not to call you anymore, you can block them, you can move on without their consent, and by stating clearly that they should keep their distance from you and that they have no control over you.
2. Throwing facts or factual data straight at their face
Narcissism, no truths, and all lies are all part of the same sentence or are synonyms. Narcissists tend to lie so much as they always attention even if it is by the means of a lie. They think they can fool everyone and prove their smartness. Narcissists have a very huge ego to satisfy, so they always want to prove a point by lying. They just consider themselves smarter than others.
So when you catch a narcissist lying or catch their lies, just state the facts and also provide your perspective to prove their lies. Narcissists hate factual information and would be completely annoyed when you state facts to them when they are wrong or catch their lies. Correcting their mistake with factual points or pointing out their mistake can infuriate a narcissist.
3. Hurting their Pride and Ego
Not agreeing with a narcissist would hurt their pride and ego. They would be hurt and their ego would burn to ashes. Hurting their Pride and Ego would move them from their core, and thus would leave a deep impact on them. Humiliating them or going against them would leave them agitated. So when you decide to hurt a narcissist’s pride or ego, they would be harsh, feel agitated, and feel insulted.
4. Talking to other people and making new friends
When you make new friends or meet new people a narcissist would be unhappy about it, as they just want to isolate you and keep you just for themselves. So meeting new friends, seeking help from others, or talking to new people would totally push their buttons. For instance, if you two are acquainted with the same workplace, then you could ask other people to help you out or talk to others when they are watching would freak them out.
5. Make them lose their control
When a Narcissist loses control over you, they feel more agitated. They will be more difficult to handle then. It is always better for you to stay calm or just you should not be taking anything personally no matter what they say. They will be saying such things which you might not be willing to hear. A Narcissist would use all sorts of techniques and might throw tantrums when they lose control over you.
6. Gaslighting them
Ghosting or gaslighting you can be the topmost priority for a Narcissist once their purpose with you is completed. When a narcissist feels they can no longer take advantage of you or from you, that’s when they break their relationship with you. So doing the same with them would just throw them off their balance.
7. Criticizing them
Being as direct as possible, pointing out their mistakes, and criticizing them when they are wrong are all enough to piss off a narcissist and helps to push their buttons.
8. Acknowledge yourself how their behavior is wrong and you are victimized
Narcissists treat you badly and take advantage of you. It is very important to know the truth about their personality. They would always try to hide their true nature in the beginning, but be smart and acknowledge that this behavior is quite not normal and take action immediately once you uncover the truth about their true personality.
Knowing more about narcissism would definitely teach you some ways to deal with your narcissistic partner without feeling victimized. Knowing more about Narcissism can help you understand your NPD individuals or anybody with NPD(Narcissistic Personality Disorder) better. This is the best and utmost way to cope with a narcissistic person. You can also know some amazing tricks and tactics to handle a narcissist in your life. This is the best way to teach the taste of their nasty behavior to them.
Though pissing them, messing with them, or pushing some of the buttons may elevate your mental peace and can even bring a little joy, defeating them at their own game may result in some changes that are favorable to you in rare cases. But that can also be your fantasy as pissing off a narcissist to visualize some changes in them can be just a futile effort. Narcissists do not change. So mess with them or push their buttons at your own risk. Do not get carried away with just messing around that you have to face unwanted and unexpected scenarios and be the victim of a narcissist’s rage and revenge.