Why Do Narcissists Lie So Much? The answers to this question might come to you as a surprise! Usually, a person is not born a narcissist, certain situations and life circumstances make him/her a narcissist. Narcissists are not born they become one after they have faced the same. A Narcissist is always a difficult person to deal with and it might also drain your mental peace completely. But if you try to know their back story you might also be shocked.
When a person is ignored by all, cheated, or hurt by others, left alone, or just criticized for no such major reason or no reason at all, such situations force them to become what they have faced. So when a person is always told lies, how can anyone expect the truth from them? Once a person becomes a narcissist or is forced towards narcissism, there is no going back!
A narcissist is never wrong according to them and considers them as the center of attraction as if the world rotates around them. Yes! it is possible to ignore a narcissist but you should also be ready for some consequences and unexpected counter-reactions. They think the world rotates around them and so they are very ignorant, self-centered, and mean. They cannot think outside the box unless it is according to or in their interest or favor.
Narcissism, no truths, and all lies are all part of the same sentence or are synonyms. Narcissists tend to lie so much as they always attention even if it is by the means of a lie. They think they can fool everyone and prove their smartness. Narcissists have a very huge ego to satisfy, so they always want to prove a point by lying. They just consider themselves smarter than others.
Egoistic narcissist often tends to lie so much, because they do not like the truth. Truth makes them feel inferior to others. They think a molded truth or a no truth would suit their personality better. When a narcissist feels that they are losing control over you or the situation, their constant need to grab attention forces them to take such measures which include all sorts of extreme lies.
Why Do Narcissists Lie So Much?
Let us know the answer to this question through various points,
- Being attention seekers
- It is their natural instinct to lie
- For deceiving or gaslighting
- For satisfying their egoistic self
- Lack of empathy
- Sense of Entitlement
- Lack of Trust
- Out of habit
You can never really know a Narcissist completely and all know about all of their tactics to be the center of attraction. These above-mentioned points can be a way to reach the answer to the question, “Why Do Narcissists Lie So Much?”. These points are commonly observed among narcissists and these may change depending upon the situations and circumstances and also change depending on your relationship with them.
When a narcissist feels the need to dominate the situation or try to impress or prove their worth, this is when they resort to all sorts of lies without considering any other fact.
Let us know further collaborative explanations on the above-mentioned points,
Being attention seekers
A Narcissist will always try to superimpose his or her ideas over yours. The moment you have to say something; they will try to show they can do it better. If you try to do something, they will deliver it better and only do their way. -Erica Fenty
As described by an author, a Narcissist would do anything to establish their mere presence and seek attention by all means. They need constant attention and are desperate to gain it. They are the ones who are always showing off their achievements and talents. So when they lose control or find that other people are losing attention to them, they try to lie to establish attention back.
It is their natural instinct to lie
A narcissist always feels the need to dominate the situation, try to be the elephant in the room, or try to impress or prove their worth by all means and all the time, so this is when they resort to all sorts of lies without considering any other fact. As lying becomes their shield to protect their fragile ego, it becomes a tool to prove their worth and presence thus making lying their natural instinct.
Lying is their only resource in their own delusional world of myths and self-centeredness. It is easy to catch the lies of a narcissist once you know their true nature and personality. So initially the lies may work, but when eventually you know them you can defend yourself by throwing straight facts at them, which would easily make them uncomfortable and force them to tell the truth.
For satisfying their Egoistic self
Narcissists are the most egoistic personalities you can ever come across. To keep their self-ego boosted a narcissist would easily lie and keep their selves in the limelight. Lying is their only resource in their own delusional world of myths and self-centeredness. It is easy to catch the lies of a narcissist once you know their true nature and personality. So initially the lies may work, but when eventually you know them you can defend yourself by throwing straight facts at them, which would easily make them uncomfortable and force them to tell the truth.
For deceiving or gaslighting
Narcissists have two faces that they wear all the time, Admiration seeking and Rivalry seeking. The admiration-seeking face is put up all the time by most narcissists but, when you try to detach yourself from a narcissist or do anything which is not according to them or in their favor, that’s when they reveal their Rivalry-seeking face. When you ignore a narcissist that’s when they start deceiving and gaslighting you.
Lack of Empathy
Narcissists are self-centered beings who do not have any space for feelings like care, empathy, shame, or guilt. They can be often mean, cold and insensitive toward other people’s feelings. They often tend to lie straight to your face without having a sense of guilt. They usually have resentment and agony of their own so they often lack Empathy. Lack of such feelings can result in lies so easily.
Sense of Entitlement
The sense of deservingness makes it difficult for a narcissist to spill the truth or even go anywhere near the truth. Fakes and lies make them look more promising and greater than others. They feel they deserve everything special, and nothing less. This habit of entitlement does not allow them to look at the truth. They prefer lies as lies make them feel better, greater, and something more than others. They have their own little cocoon of lies in which they are comfortable and do not wish to step out. Thus if any truth makes them feel low or little they cover it up with more and more lies due to their egoistic nature. For instance,
- When a narcissist is proven wrong by someone, and when someone tries to tell them the truth, instead of facing the reality they often tell more and more lies to cover up their mistake. They always want to be the center of attraction so they never tend to speak the truth.
- Narcissists have specific thinking patterns which make them incapable to see the truth and thus they be dependent on lies.
Lack of Trust
Narcissists lack a sense of trust. They are often visualized as untrustworthy so they also perceive the world as the same. Narcissists do not have any concept of trustworthiness or conceptualizing trust. Due to their lack of trust, they often use lies to shield their personalities. To maintain control, they never establish such trustworthy bonds thus always receive lies and provide the same.
Out of habit
Manipulation tactics are always there in a narcissist’s bag. To never let their guard down, narcissists often tend to manipulate people’s thoughts and deceive them with lies. This is their natural behavior thus making it a habit for them. A Narcissist is an individual who is excessively obsessed to have control over all situations in their life, control over all individuals and their behavior, and also expects everyone around the to focus just on them. They intend to be the center of attraction in all situations. A Narcissist person craves attention all the time, lacks care and empathy, can be rude and blunt, ignores other people’s feelings, and has troubled relationships. Thus Narcissists Lie a lot out of their habit.
Things to keep in mind while you catch a Narcissist lying to your face:
- Staying calm and putting your truth calmly can make a big difference while dealing with a Narcissist.
- Protect yourself by revealing the truth by all means.
- Speaking up for oneself and telling the may affect the relationship with a Narcissist in the current scenario, but can ease up the conversation for the future.
- Tell people your side of the story and have faith in you so that they do not abandon you with all the wrong ideas of you.
- Initially, a Narcissist might seem winning for some time, but eventually, people would notice the truth and would side with you.
Don’t argue with a Narcissist, their Lies are their Truths, and they want to watch you go crazy trying to prove it. -E.S.
As suggested by mental health experts, authors, and psychologists, it is delusional to hear or expect the truth from a Narcissist. When a narcissist feels the need to dominate the situation or try to impress or prove their worth, this is when they resort to all sorts of lies without considering any other fact. Manipulation tactics are always there in a narcissist’s bag. To never let their guard down, narcissists often tend to manipulate people’s thoughts and deceive them with lies.
In your defense, always try to bring the truth forward and in front of the lies told by narcissists and save yourself from the wrong allegations or deceitful points. Initially, a Narcissist might seem winning for some time, but eventually, people would notice the truth and would side with you.