Do Narcissists Enjoy Kissing?
Do Narcissists Enjoy Kissing? Are narcissists genuinely able to enjoy any form of intimacy? Do narcissists kiss you for enjoyment or is there a motive behind them kissing, cuddling, and caressing you? Let us find out further.
What does Kissing symbolize in a relationship?
Kisses hold good importance in relationships, and by this time you might be reminiscing about your first kiss. Are you? If yes, it is because everybody remembers their first kiss, as it is special and sparks a newly built relationship. Kissing may be sparkling emotional fireworks as it releases a feel-good emotion; oxytocin, which is majorly responsible for all the emotional butterflies that may develop in your stomach while you are kissing.
According to psychology experts, kissing can also boost sex drive as the saliva contains the testosterone hormone which plays a crucial role in sexual stimulation. So there is a release of many hormones while performing the act of kissing.
Thus kissing can help couples to develop emotional and physical intimacy as involves emotional involvement and vulnerabilities. Couples can strengthen their bonds and there is also a possibility of them falling in love.
Kissing has been an intimate form of intimacy between lovers, romantic partners, or anybody who loves the other person. Kisses can be of different types. There are intimate kisses that may spur a spark for physical intimacy, then there are kisses of love between partners, parents and children, friends, or anyone who wishes to display care and caress.
Kisses always have a hidden emotion behind them. For instance, a goodbye kiss, a long-time-no-see kiss between partners, a missed case, and much more. Not all kisses need to be romantic, but all kisses do carry an emotional feel. but kissing is more than just an act of mingling, it is a trigger for emotional reactions and a surge of happy hormones. Now the question arises, Can kisses be a means to gain something or be used negatively by a person?
So the answer here is a Yes! Not all people may have positive intentions while they are kissing. Some may do it just out of manipulation or as a means to gain something. It is not that they do not enjoy kissing, but the reason may or may not be good behind those kisses.
So it is here when a narcissist comes into the picture. Narcissists do enjoy kissing, but the motive or reasons may completely vary depending upon their approach, timing, and situation. Thus narcissists might enjoy kissing but not for the reasons that you have in mind.
Do narcissists kiss with the same intimacy, passion, and feelings that most people do? Let us find out further, the real meaning of a kiss, when it is coming from a narcissist.
Do Narcissists Enjoy Kissing?
Kissing bridges love and compassion. These are two major emotions that a kiss may carry. Both these emotions are far-fetched when it comes to a narcissist. Yet narcissists do kiss. So what is the real reason behind a narcissist’s kiss? Do narcissists indeed like kissing?
Narcissists are controlling and thus they form superficial relationships as they need power. Thus their relationships cannot be easygoing. Their traits and tendencies make their bonds and relationships complicated. And complicated relationships are always shallow and surface-level.
Narcissists lack empathy which makes them incapable of experiencing emotions like love, intimacy, and care. As discussed earlier, kissing can be associated with emotional bonds and being vulnerable. But narcissists do not like to let their guard down, even with their partners. They always like to be in charge and in power.
Narcissists often condition themselves to reject the idea of romance altogether. And thus their thinking processes may be impaired when it comes to kissing, cuddling and emotional intimacy. They completely lack the tenderness required for making romantic gestures and have actual feelings.
Most narcissists are shallow and they do not know much about making deeper emotional bonds or nurturing their relationships. Their love, affection, and attraction are surface-level tactics just to make their relationship go as they thrive upon the narcissistic supply that they mostly obtain from their partners.
Most people believe that narcissists are not cut out for love due to their incapabilities of getting emotionally involved with their partners. Showing affection and love is their weakest pursuit and thus they refrain from doing so to maintain their mask of falseness.
Thus narcissist may shun their feelings and detest kissing. They may not show or display it physically but inside they might be loathing kisses as it involves emotional entanglement. Their kisses may feel robotic and unmanned. Therefore there is a clear possibility that narcissists may not like kissing because of how it would make them feel at the moment and also later on.
Reasons why a Narcissist may not really enjoy kissing
Here is why a narcissist may dislike or never really enjoy kissing,
It is an act of emotional surrender
Kissing is an act of surrendering emotions and being vulnerable to the other person. It may involve a lot more than just the physical act. When people kiss, it involves emotional intimacy, which a narcissist may clearly detest as their relationships are superficial. Narcissist fear that kissing might make them vulnerable and their real toxic self may be exposed.
Narcissists refuse to form emotional connections
Narcissists are not very apt at dealing with emotions and thus they always have trouble handling emotions. They have unhealthy relationships due to uncoordinated emotions. Narcissists never really care about how others might feel due to them, as they are so focused on maintaining their fake personalities that they have built on hiding and shielding emotions. Thus they refuse to let their masks slip and refrain from forming emotional connections or relationships based on unbuckled emotions.
They feel like they are losing control as they kiss
Kissing is a means of giving in one of the strongest and deepest desires. It is a means to surrender to emotions thus being vulnerable and being open in the relationship. Narcissists often think that kissing is a temptation that may distract them and make them emotionally weak, and thus they might lose control of the relationship.
They do not want to admit to their feelings
Narcissists are good at pretending and their desire to feel accepted by everyone. Thus they build a fake facade of being nice, understanding, and pleasant for the desire to be acceptable socially among their peers, families, and acquaintances. By doing this they are building a facade against their emotions and running away from their true feelings. Thus they may abhor kissing.
They may find kissing boring
Narcissists require constant thrill in their lives which they attain by manipulating others and not by finding love or anything that may make them emotionally vulnerable. For narcissists, their victims or their partners may be just like playthings that they use and then discard once their purpose is fulfilled. Thus kissing may not be ideal for them as they get easily bored of such emotional attachments.
They lack empathy
A narcissist is capable of feeling all emotions, it is just that they do not acknowledge them and express them due to their vulnerabilities. They fear expressing emotions can make them emotionally weak and vulnerable and might create a weaker image in front of others. They fear that once they surrender to their feelings they might lose control and power. Thus they would be emotionally unavailable in their relationships.
They also reject the idea of comforting others and thus hugs, kisses, and physical intimacy may be out of the picture most of the time for the narcissist.
They always have ulterior motives
Narcissists would eventually participate in romantic behavior if they feel their partner is slipping away or if they require anything from their partners. They are cunning enough that they can fake the complete emotional responses act, thus creating dupe feelings that may involve impassive kissing.
Narcissists are just not romantic
Though this may not be true for all narcissistic individuals, true for many narcissistic individuals that they are just not romantic. Romance can be a complicated matter for many narcissistic individuals as they never allow themselves to get emotionally invested with their partners. Thus kissing may seem a dislikable idea for many narcissists.
They think they are better than others
Narcissists consider them as the superior human race and thus this perspective may lessen their interest in physical and emotional intimacy. Even if they end up kissing someone, they may always signify that as a favor as they would state that they themselves are not getting anything in return.
How do Narcissists show affection?
Narcissists can adapt and project what their partners may desire. They have a capacity to adapt to other people’s desires and thus they may say and do what others want to hear and want just to establish dominance in the relationship. If their partners desire to hear an “I Love You”, they may say it without putting any emotional connection or those three words might lose their essence as they might not be heartfelt.
Narcissists are calculative and strategic. Thus you may just end up as their plaything. You may think that everything is going according to you in the relationship as they make you believe so, but little do you know their ulterior motives behind those unadulterated actions.
Do Narcissists Like to Cuddle and Be Touched?
This may differ from person to person. Some narcissists may view forms of physical intimacy as a way to lure their partners or sometimes even cheat. While some narcissists may not even resort to any physical intimacy. But in most cases it is common that all types of narcissists may resort to forms of physical intimacy like cuddling when they have wronged their partners and they fear that their partners might leave them. Thus out of fear, they might choose to get intimate with their partners as a form of their apology.
They might actually believe that physical intimacy can solve everything, but here they might be wrong. They might not even negotiate or discuss them being unreasonable but instead would try to solve everything either through sex or any form of physical intimacy.
Thus most of the time the physical intimacy may be out of desire, fear, or just a manipulative tactic rather than being a source to strengthen and deepen the bond. There is often no sort of emotional connection involved when a narcissist gets physical with you in many cases.
But not all narcissists are the same, thus generalizing this may not be appropriate as for some narcissists, physical intimacy may indeed be a source to deepen their bond with you. But this happens in rare cases, as narcissists are shallow and they do not know much about making deeper emotional bonds nurturing their relationships. Their love, affection, and attraction are surface-level tactics just to make their relationship go as they thrive upon the narcissistic supply that they mostly obtain from their partners.
Final Thoughts
Narcissists do enjoy kissing, but the motive or reasons may completely vary depending upon their approach, timing, and situation. Thus narcissists might enjoy kissing but not for the reasons that you have in mind.
Narcissists are controlling and thus they form superficial relationships as they need power. Thus their relationships cannot be easygoing. Their traits and tendencies make their bonds and relationships complicated. And complicated relationships are always shallow and surface-level.
Narcissists lack empathy which makes them incapable of experiencing emotions like love, intimacy, and care. As discussed earlier, kissing can be associated with emotional bonds and being vulnerable. But narcissists do not like to let their guard down, even with their partners. They always like to be in charge and in power.
Thus narcissist may shun their feelings and detest kissing. They may not show or display it physically but inside they might be loathing kisses as it involves emotional entanglement. Their kisses may feel robotic and unmanned. Therefore there is a clear possibility that narcissists may not like kissing because of how it would make them feel at the moment and also later on.
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