How Would The Narcissist Treat You When You Are Sick? – 5 Ways

by Ella Carrillo · February 6, 2024

How would the Narcissist treat you when you are Sick? When you get sick, you truly know who is supportive and helping. So if you have a narcissistic partner, you may drop your expectations of seeking help, care, and support from them while you are sick.

They may never like to care and bear inconvenience for themselves. They may never genuinely care for you when you are feeling under the weather.

While in a relationship with a narcissist, you may never be cared for, or have emotional support or a helping hand. So what would happen when you get sick? How would the narcissist take it? What would they do and how would they react?

A relationship with a narcissist can be challenging, as they are self-centered beings. They would prioritize themselves over others, including their partners, friends, and family. Thus having a relationship with someone who is a narcissist, can be troublesome for you on the days when you are ailing.

Narcissists will not be concerned for you or even if they do display some concern that may be for the sake of asking. They may not do anything for you or help you even while you are sick.

In fact, they may be using your sickness as a way to gain sympathy or attention from others.

For instance, a narcissist may try to downplay your symptoms and sickness and make you look frail. They may discuss their symptoms to make it look like you are overreacting for a minor illness and they have been suffering for a long, yet they are strongly dealing with it unlike you who is making a fuss over nothing.

They may try to downplay your sufferings and make you feel unimportant. They may neither be supportive nor helping rather they may also ask others to ignore your demands. So if you are sick, you must rely on other people who would help you heal from your sickness rather than the nasty narcissist.

Thus let us know a few ways in which a narcissist would treat you when you are sick,

How Would The Narcissist Treat You When You Are Sick?

Narcissists can be some of the most overwhelming partners when you are sick. let us know how they may treat you in your illness,

They will make you feel bad

If you have a narcissistic partner, you may have to lose all your expectations of them caring and supporting you in your sickness, instead, you may be unhappy and downhearted when you come to know that narcissists make you feel fragile when you are weak rather than supporting you and caring for you.

They may say you are frail and also mock you in front of others. They may keep on saying they are stronger than you and make you feel inadequate.

The tragic part of having a relationship with a narcissist is that you may always be there caring, supporting, and looking after them, in their sickness and good days, but they may never be there for you in either of the situations. It may so happen sometimes that you may get sick taking care of their needs, yet they might just disregard your efforts.

Rather than caring for you while you are sick, they may behave unfairly and attack you with words. They may blame it on you. They may blame you for pending house chores, untimely meals, or even unsettled issues with your health.

Thus they may try to make you feel bad for falling sick and not even care whether you feel good or are healing. In such a situation too, they will be thinking of themselves and how because of you, they may have to spare time for you, might spare time to fill in your place for the kids, or do some house chores.

They will act like you are a nuisance

They might not say it directly, but their actions may suggest that they are annoyed by your sickness. Their actions and reactions may showcase how your sickness is causing them inconvenience. They may roll their eyes at you when you ask them to do something for you, or they may shout at you when you ask them to take you to a doctor.

Instead of caring for you, they may state things like, “Who told you to get sick now?” I have so much important work to do, and instead, I am lagging just because you are lying on the bed due to some minor health issue.”

When you have to face all this while you are in bad health, you may realize how toxic your relationship is and how nasty your partner is. You may realize how you have done everything for them on their bad days, and how they refuse to even lift a spoon for you. How unequal, unhealthy, and unhappy your relationship is with this person.

They may constantly state that you are the problem in the relationship. But do not get worried, as you are not the problem here, THEY ARE. You may know what they think of you.

Though they should be the closest person to you as your partner, now you know what they think of you and how unfair their behavior is with you. It is in sickness, you know who is there for you by your side and who disappears in tough times.

Thus make wise decisions further and take care of your well-being.

They will disappear

They may always have that work trip, commitments, or last-moment plans when you are sick. Have you paid attention to the fact that how your narcissistic partner is absent somehow when you need them the most?

They do not like to be bothered by you when you are sick so they just come up with unreasonable excuses to abandon you in your bad health days. They may also believe that getting sick is all on you and they have nothing to do with it. Thus they may leave you to deal with your sickness all by yourself.

But as soon as they get the news of you getting better or are fit as a fiddle, they may rush to you to make you feel better and take advantage of your newly gained energy and health.

They may come to you when you are all recovered because then you will have all the time, energy, and resources to provide them once again.

They will act like they are sicker than you

You may want to laugh out loud at this point, but yes narcissists will act out to be sick out of nowhere just when you state that you are feeling under the weather. It is like if you are feeling so, they may also be feeling something similar.

This happens with almost all narcissists who act to be sick when you feel sick. You may expect that someone(probably your partner) should be by your side taking care of you, but only to get disappointed. The narcissists will also start acting to be sick, expecting you to care for them.

They may want you to leave your health and sickness aside, and start looking after them. This always happens when they face some misfortunes too. They wish that you leave everything aside that is going on with you, and be a problem solver or support them.

Narcissists are selfish but they can stoop the lowest even when you are sick, and thus you can draw boundaries here, to save yourself from the emotional and physical abuse and torture.

They will ignore you

Here comes the last and final point; and that is a tiger cannot change its stripes, meaning a narcissist’s true nature is ignoring their responsibilities intentionally. They may act so innocent by ignoring activities or tasks that do not interest them although those may be their basic responsibilities from which they may be running away.

So when you are sick, a narcissist would ignore you like you do not exist for them in that particular time frame. Even if they notice how difficult it is to complete daily chores or routine tasks they may ignore you.

They may be well aware of the fact that you need care, and you are not able to look after yourself due to your sickness, they may leave you hanging on your own and just walk out of the room shamelessly. Even if you may be suffering a physical injury, they may leave you to be and ignore you.

They do this as they are downright selfish and they can not think for anyone else but just THEMSELVES.

Narcissists behave so as they lack empathy, which is the trait that makes a person emotionally vulnerable and responsive. A narcissistic partner may just be doing what they usually do and think about their meals, without thinking whether or not you may or may not have had your first meal.

You may be suffering severely, but they would be so unaffected that they may be outrageously having their meal enjoying in front of the television, while you may be lying in your bedroom suffering. They can remain so unaffected as they do not care about anything or anyone unless it starts affecting them and their life.

So when your sickness starts affecting them, like you may not be able to work, keep the home clean, or cook for them, then they may show some interest only to make you feel bad and guilty for your ailment.

They may constantly criticize you for being sick. Thus some narcissistic individuals can be stone-hearted. Thus ignoring their sick partner, children, parents or anyone in the family is their wicked trick to run away from the responsibility of taking care of that person.

The damaging reality of a narcissist’s nasty side when you are sick

Narcissists can be some of the most overwhelming partners when you are sick. If your illness is terminal, chronic, or even short term they may,

Leave you or threaten to divorce you

Ask you to stop faking the symptoms

Be angry with you

Be critical and disrespectful to you

Blame you and hold you responsible

Minimize and devalue your illness

People usually stay in toxic relationships just for that last string of “HOPE” that they may be attached to their partners. They may have the belief that their illness can change the narcissist and make them vulnerable.

This is only going to be disappointing for them as narcissists work differently. No amount of hope, compromise, or belief is going to change their personality unless it is a major turning point in their life and is going to leave them hanging on the cliff.

So even if you are consistently by their side in their good and bad times, you may never find them beside you in your bad or tough times. So just focus on healing yourself by seeking support from people who genuinely care for you.

Important Takeaway

Narcissists can be some of the most overwhelming partners when you are sick. They may never like to care and bear inconvenience for themselves. They may never genuinely care for you when you are feeling under the weather.

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Ella Carrillo

Hey Reader, I am Ella, an Online and Offline Therapist holding an experience of 6 years in this field.

From Relationship, Depression, and Personality Disorder to Narcissistic problems, I have helped a lot of people find their solutions. Upon gathering a number of common problems that people face, I decided to put the information on this blog so that anyone can get their answers easily.

How Would The Narcissist Treat You When You Are Sick? – 5 Ways