How Do Narcissists Treat Their Aging Parents? (Real Truth)
How do Narcissists treat their Aging Parents? Do narcissists abandon their parents when they age? Do narcissists think of their old parents as a burden? Do narcissists treat their old parents with respect? Do narcissists love their parents equally when their parents’ age? If you are worried and also curious as to how a narcissist would treat their parents when their parents grow old, then this article is all about that along with other related information regarding the same in brief.
Narcissists are someone who is often characterized and peculiar regarding their trait of being self-absorbed. They hardly think about others. They always prioritize their own self and their needs above others. They have a high sense of self-importance, so much so that they might even ignore their own children or their own parents. They even tend to ignore their life partners too, in some cases. Thus it can be concluded, that narcissists only care for themselves, their needs and desires, and their wishes.
Above that, narcissists lack empathy; meaning they can never truly understand anybody else’s emotions and emotional responses. They might not even know how others would feel regarding their behavior, or how their simplest ill-mannered or impolite acts may affect others and may leave the deepest scars. Narcissists cannot care for anyone, but themselves, thus they do not tend to care for others. Thus they have straining relationships even with their parents.
Narcissists hardly like to take responsibility for anything or anyone. They would just withdraw when they feel that they’re being burdened by someone or something. They would simply ignore their responsibilities and with that reference, they might also ignore their young children, sick partner, or even again parents. They feel that all of these is an added responsibilities that might add up to their work and might lot use up a lot of resources(especially monetary resources) too.
It is only possible for the narcissist to care for others when they feel that others are also equally reflecting their responses and actions; meaning, if you give your two hundred percent to the narcissist, they might try giving half of that to you. It is possible for a narcissist to care for others if they put aside their own needs, their self-absorbed self aside, and try to think for others at least once in a while. If they are able to see how others have been doing so much for them, making so many efforts to adjust with them, and always compromising their needs and wishes for the narcissists, then they might be able to really care for others.
“How do Narcissists treat their aging Parents?”, coming to this question now. So there are possibilities for a narcissist to care a little or not care at all for their aging parents, depending upon their relationships with them. If narcissists have been raised by narcissistic parents, then they might reciprocate the same patterns of behavior with their parents too. But if narcissists have been raised by non-narcissistic parents, then the scenario may differ. They might actually care for their parents after they are done caring for themselves first. Let us know more about what treatment would a narcissist give to their aging parents and more.
Can Narcissists Be Caregivers?
Narcissists can be caring and might display emotions in times of need. Not all narcissists lack emotions. Narcissists can function smoothly just because they have their family and supportive family members. So narcissists are also well aware of this fact and might not hesitate to help sometimes or in some cases where they feel there is no harm in helping or no one is challenging their ego. Narcissists can be extremely manipulative even with their family members, but they might choose to help when someone is unwell or in need of their care.
Narcissists usually the help and care function due to the lack of empathy, but they are well aware of the fact that this world runs on the concept of give and take and nobody can just survive only on the concept of taking. They also feel the need to help their family because they know that in their tough times, family members were the only people who really cared for them. Narcissists might lack emotional responses, but they are humans after all so they cannot be heartless completely.
Also in many cases, narcissists would just project or fake that they have the skills required to care for someone or they really care for someone, but in reality, it is totally different. They do not really be aware of how to care for someone and in what ways should they choose to start caring for someone. They might also be fake caring to receive something in return.
So yes; narcissists can be caregivers to their old parents, or family members in times of need. But do not expect they might know everything about caregiving, or how to care for someone as they lack empathy. Their ways to provide may be totally different and might also feel useless many a time, but this is all you get when you expect help and care from a narcissist. Narcissists do care for their old parents, but there also may be some hidden agendas or propagation when a narcissist chooses to help out.
How Do Narcissists Treat Their Aging Parents? (Real Truth)
Narcissists do not like to take responsibility or be helpful or of need to others. Also, narcissists view their old parents as some sort of inconvenience or a burden. They think that their old parents might be a burden because they are totally dependent on the narcissist; physically, emotionally, and monetary burdens. In some cases, a narcissist might genuinely want to care for their aging parents, but in some cases, they would just be frustrated from the added responsibility or might also just cut off their relationship with their parents to save themselves from the added responsibility and financial burden that they think their parents might bring.
Narcissists also fear that their aging parents might increase their monetary expenses as old people often get sick and might require care and money more often. This is also one of the reasons that a narcissist might not care for their old and aging parents. But not all narcissists think this way. There are some narcissists who would readily be the caregiver of other aging parents out of love, responsibility, and care.
There are two scenarios here, one is where a narcissistic child is raised by narcissistic parents, and one is where the child is raised by non-narcissistic parents. In both cases the ways of caregiving and impact might change so let us get to know the end results of both,
Let us discuss the scenario, where a narcissistic child is raised by narcissistic parents
A narcissist’s parenting, warmth for their children, nurturing, positiveness, unconditional love, and many such parenting techniques may be questionable and would be different than what is normally expected from parents. Narcissistic parents leave a deep impact on their children’s lives which is termed childhood trauma. Narcissistic parents have the same influence on their kids as well.
No parent would wish for something that is excruciating for their children. But with narcissistic parents, a child’s development is questioned and influenced at many levels. Narcissistic parents leave a deep impact on their children, as they lack emotional bonds, their love is conditional, achievements are more important than their child, their needs are a top priority than their child’s, no arguments only agreements without knowing the problem, and much more. Narcissistic parents are almost emotionally unavailable, self-centered, and egoistic, lash out in anger more frequently, have a very low rate of understanding, and blame the child, rather than looking at their fault.
When narcissistic parents realize that their children are starting to form their own personalities, which might be different from what they might have expected, they would manipulate and inculcate toxicity into their children.
Narcissists are mainly not aware of how they are impacting their children. They are always overconfident regarding their parenting techniques and always overestimate their parenting skills. Narcissists usually feel disappointed, embarrassed, and vexed by their kids. If children do not tend to behave according to their parent’s expectations, they might be so disappointed in them, that they might cut off them or stay disconnected from them.
Thus when a child is raised in such a toxic and abusive atmosphere, they might be any different from their parents, and hence they might also lack the skills of caregiving. But they might still take care of their parents, expecting something in return like a share in the property or just to get appreciated socially. They would not be helping and caring for their old parents out of responsibility or real love, but they might be doing it just to enhance their social image, seek sympathy from people, and also gain some monetary benefits from their parents.
Narcissists in such cases might use their parents to be the subject of talk around people and also manipulate them by caring for their parents. They might also hide away from their other responsibilities from their wife and children in the name of caregiving.
Let us discuss the scenario, where a narcissistic child is raised by narcissistic parents
In this case, the narcissist has been raised more or less with care, warmth, empathy, emotional presence, fulfilling the emotional needs of the child, and being there for them in their thick and thin days, without much discrimination. So the child might always have had that loving and caring atmosphere. In this case, the narcissist might care for their aging parents, but somewhere their personality traits might become a hindrance.
Some narcissists might have genuine affection for their mothers but would not be able to express it due to a lack of empathy.
Narcissists can be caring and might display emotions in times of need. Not all narcissists lack emotions. Narcissists can function smoothly just because they have their family and supportive family members. So narcissists are also well aware of this fact and might not hesitate to help sometimes or in some cases where they feel there is no harm in helping or no one is challenging their ego. Narcissists can be extremely manipulative even with their family members, but they might choose to help when someone is unwell or in need of their care.
Narcissists usually the help and care function due to the lack of empathy, but they are well aware of the fact that this world runs on the concept of give and take and nobody can just survive only on the concept of taking. They also feel the need to help their family because they know that in their tough times, family members were the only people who really cared for them. Narcissists might lack emotional responses, but they are humans after all so they cannot be heartless completely.
So yes; narcissists can be caregivers to their old parents, or family members in times of need. But do not expect they might know everything about caregiving, or how to care for someone as they lack empathy. Their ways to provide may be totally different and might also feel useless many a time, but this is all you get when you expect help and care from a narcissist. Narcissists do care for their old parents, but there also may be some hidden agendas or propagation when a narcissist chooses to help out.
In Conclusion
Narcissists usually view themselves as the extension of their parents and thus they may tend to choose or not choose to help their aging parents depending much upon their characteristics and individual mindset. Narcissists do care for their old parents, but there also may be some hidden agendas or propagation when a narcissist chooses to help out.
Narcissists in some cases might have hidden agendas and might use their parents to be the subject of talk around people and also manipulate them by caring for their parents. They might also hide away from their other responsibilities from their wife and children in the name of caregiving.
In some cases, narcissists can be caregivers to their old parents, or family members in times of need. But do not expect they might know everything about caregiving, or how to care for someone as they lack empathy. Their ways to provide may be totally different and might also feel useless many a time, but this is all you get when you expect help and care from a narcissist.
From Relationship, Depression, and Personality Disorder to Narcissistic problems, I have helped a lot of people find their solutions. Upon gathering a number of common problems that people face, I decided to put the information on this blog so that anyone can get their answers easily.
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