If you are dating a narcissist, and you do note some changes in their behavior then that can be a sign of cheating as they would have found a new supply; thus we will be acknowledging you with some Narcissist Cheating signs you should not deny or not even ignore. Just take them as red flags and detach yourself from the toxic relationship that you are in!
More about a Narcissistic personality
You need to understand that all narcissists have different personalities, different traits, and different likes and desires, different tactics to lure you in, but that’s for sure some narcissistic people have a very different and irresistible charm that you just simply cannot resist and fall in their trap, so make sure to understand more about narcissists and NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) if you ever come across such a person. We have discussed various aspects of a narcissistic person below, with the help of which you can spot them,
Who is a narcissist?
A Narcissist is an individual who is excessively obsessed to have control over all situations in their life, control over all individuals and their behavior, and also expects everyone around the to focus just on them. They intend to be the center of attraction in all situations. A Narcissist person craves attention all the time, lacks care and empathy, can be rude and blunt, ignores other people’s feelings, and has troubled relationships. They love bomb you at first when they want to lure you in and then boom when they get bored they dump you.
How to spot a Narcissist?
For avoiding falling into a narcissist’s love trap, let us know some peculiar traits of a narcissist with the help of which you can avoid such a person as your partner, and avoid all future troubles, emotional damage, and trauma.
- This person might try to win over you with excessive love which is not normal that it almost seems unreal
- Would stalk you in every possible way
- This person would need constant attention and are desperate to gain it.
- They lack sensitivity and empathy.
- They would not listen to you, would just try to keep their point and make everything about them.
- They merely care for your feelings unless it involves them.
- They have high levels of self-importance, self-esteem, and overconfidence.
- They always need praise, appreciation, and entitlement.
What is it like dating a Narcissist?
There are 3 phases of dating a Narcissist:
1. Attraction or Idealization Phase
The Attraction or Idealization phase is the step where they spot you and grab your attraction, like spotting a target for obtaining their supply.
2. Devaluation Phase
Once they gain your complete trust, this is when they start playing with your feelings and thoughts by using their manipulative tactics. This is the phase when they would suck the positivity out of you and drain you.
3. Discard Phase or Rejection Phase
The Discard phase is nothing but the time when a narcissist uses you completely until their satisfaction like their puppet, and when they no longer need you or find someone else they just discard you like something unimportant. This is the phase when they usually start cheating on you.
Why do narcissists cheat?
Narcissists have a huge ego to satisfy. Narcissists have zero control over themselves. They get easily distracted wherever they get a little attention as they are big attention seekers. Narcissists have no term for guilt or remorse in their dictionary. All they do is make you feel guilty for something that they have done. But they would never be guilty or ashamed of what they have done due to their high ego and zero self-control.
They cheat on you when the narcissist feels that the charm and chase are over, the excitement and lust are gone, the purpose (whatever they have been using you for like money, physical intimacy, just to cop with their former breakup or a fresh supply) is over, and they finally can no longer use you for their gains; these can be some of the most common reasons why narcissist would cheat on you.
Narcissists will cheat on you & accuse you of being unfaithful. They’ll lash out & blame you for making them angry. They’ll hide their phone & openly flirt, then call you jealous & irrational. They’ll abandon you & leave you holding the bag, then tell everyone that they fled your abuse.-Unknown
This is correctly quoted by someone about a narcissist leaving you after cheating, and not feeling guilty at all.
There are various Narcissist cheating signs you should not deny at any cost. But how can you know if a narcissist is cheating on you? Narcissism is often relevant to partners cheating on each other as the narcissist lacks feelings like care, sympathy, and understanding, and the partner they are dating soon realizes that the relationship they are having is toxic. So either they continue this relationship due to forced and false endeavors made by the narcissist and have an external affair where they understand what a healthy relationship looks like or they just give up on dating!
Whereas on the other hand, Narcissist is always in search of new supply, so they often keep trying to establish several relationships along with their current one. Narcissists are self-centered and pathetic when it comes to understanding feelings, so they often change partners when they feel the current partner cannot give them what they want.
Do all Narcissists cheat?
The answer to this question is dubious, but no not all narcissists do cheat usually. But cheating is a trait certainly strongly attached and associated with narcissistic personalities. But narcissists do put a false identity or lie unbelievably so that no one can think they can be dishonest. They can perfectly portray an innocent character by lying straight to your face and that too with expertise.
Now, let us know Narcissist Cheating Signs You Should Not Deny, as a form of warning if you feel you are being cheated upon,
Narcissist Cheating Signs You Should Not Deny
- Avoids meeting you with excuses
- Cancels plans at the last minute
- Sudden behavioral changes
- Excessively showering you with love and other expensive gifts and surprising you
- Disappearing suddenly for days and changing the topic when you ask about their disappearance
- A sudden drop in communication
- Lies Lies and only Lies
- Do not allow you to go anywhere around their phones, tablets, or any belongings
- Always on their phone
- Showing no interest in physical intimacy with you
- If by chance you get a hint about them cheating, blaming you for everything
Narcissists might try or fake that they care about you, but in reality, all they care is about their needs, priorities, feelings, and concerns. They are primarily associated with self-praise, their accomplishments, their supply (supply is mostly associated with a person who falls victim to a narcissist person and their tactics to keep you in their lives), and everything about them. When they think you can no longer be their supply, that is when they find people and cheat on you.
1. Avoids meeting you with excuses
When a narcissist is cheating on you, the first thing they do is avoid meeting you and provide you with excuses every time you ask to meet them. This is because they want to spend all the time with their newly found supply and want to avoid you because according to them you are no longer required in their life. They would be providing excuses like,
- Have been working extra shifts lately, so exhausted. – Always tired to talk to you.
- Why are you calling at this hour? I am busy! – They always pretend to be busy while you call.
- Not well or feeling lazy, and when you ask them what is the cause of their illness; they discontinue the topic or skip that question altogether.
- When you show up announced at their place, they shoo you with excuses like, parents are visiting, or work colleagues are visiting, or have to work.
- Visiting family this weekend or have plans with family. – They would always tell this when you ask them to meet on weekends.
2. Cancels plans at the last minute
You are all set to go out, and then you get a call from a narcissist that they wouldn’t be able to show up due to certain reasons. They would not even call sometimes about them not coming, and when you reach the venue and call them they would blame you and lash out at you for not calling and confirming before leaving.
They would simply make excuses for many upcoming weeks or months so that you don’t ask them to meet up later too. This is because they do not want to meet you as they are busy cheating on you.
3. Sudden behavioral changes
Going shopping, buying extensively, spending more money, grooming properly, not answering calls in front of you, not checking their phone when you are around, coming late from work, eating out more often, going on business trips more often, and many more. If you notice any such changes in your narcissistic partner, then do not be surprised if you think they are cheating on you. They are! Just make sure of your suspicion and leave the toxic relationship.
4. Excessively showering you with love and other expensive gifts and surprising you
When a narcissist thinks that you are suspicious of them, they would be acting all lovey-dovey out of the blue. They would shower you with excessive love, compliment you, make your favorite dish, buy you gifts, suddenly asks about your day, and takes interest in your life; this is just all on a temporary basis because little do you know about their ill intentions behind your back. They will play all sorts of love tactics to manipulate you and your thoughts just to take off your attention from your suspicion of yours.
5. Disappearing suddenly for days and changing the topic when you ask about their disappearance
They would be disappearing for days from your life completely without informing you about their whereabouts. They would not answer any questions about their whereabouts and lash out at you that you don’t trust them and would blame all on you. They would always initiate fights when his topic comes up. They would be MIA(Missing in Action) for hours. They would make all kinds of excuses to get away for several days like,
- Going for a long business trip.
- Going to meet my family or long-lost relative.
- Visiting a long-distance friend.
6. A sudden drop in communication
Notice a sudden drop in communication when a narcissist is cheating on you. If you live together, they would avoid talking to you, just answer whatever you ask, and would never initiate communication. If you are not living together, then they would never text your first, it is always you who is checking on them. They would not pick up your calls, avoid meeting you and always put you on seen for messages.
7. Lies Lies and only Lies
Manipulation tactics are always there in a narcissist’s bag. To never let their guard down, narcissists often tend to manipulate your thoughts and deceive you with lies. This is their natural behavior thus this becomes their natural habit while they are cheating too. They would always lie about their whereabouts, whom they are with when they would be returning, or simply about everything that can reveal their truth.
A narcissist always feels the need to dominate the situation, try to be the elephant in the room, or try to cover up the truth by all means and all the time, so this is when they resort to all sorts of lies without considering any other fact. As lying becomes their shield to protect their fragile ego and their truth of cheating on you.
8. Do not allow you to go anywhere around their phones, tablets, or any belongings
A Narcissist would freak out if you touch their phone, their tablet, or laptop. It is because they are cheating on you so they do not want you to get suspicious. They would carry their phones everywhere they go even in the bathroom or washrooms. They would not leave their phone for a single minute when you are around. They would get mad at you if you even look at their phone when it rings or for a notification. They would always put their phones on silent mode around you.
9. Always on their phone
They would be always using their phone, even if you are spending time together. They would find some excuse to use their phone and not listen to you. They would not reply to your texts, would not pick up your calls, and would block you from social media, even though they are always on their phone. This is a sign for you to understand that they are cheating on you. Do not ignore the red flags.
10. Showing no interest in physical intimacy with you
Instead of making it clear that they are longer interested in you, they would make you feel like something is wrong with you, you have changed and become unlovable. They would no longer be interested in any kind of physical intimacy with you. They would be repelled if you go near them. They would avoid going near you or caressing you or even noticing you. They would be both physically and emotionally unavailable for you.
11. If by chance you get a hint about them cheating, blaming you for everything
If by chance you get a hint of them cheating on you, they would act all innocent and behave like they are the victim here. A narcissist cannot accept their mistake because according to them, they are never wrong. This is when they make you feel you have done something wrong, but in reality, they are fed up with you and just want to discard you from their life, as they have found a new interest.
Notice all the red flags, when they are so clear to you. Do not get brainwashed or do not get caught up in the fog of a narcissist’s atmosphere of lies and excuses.
If you notice any above-mentioned signs in your partner, take it as a hint or sign of cheating, or discuss it clearly with your narcissistic partner about your suspicion. Free yourself from such a toxic relationship as soon as possible.
The secret to a happy relationship is two happy people.
– NAVAL RAVIKANT
Remember this quote, and find your happiness with someone else who can actually be happy with you.