My Narcissist Ex Blocked Me (Is There Any Chance He/She Is Coming Back?)
Why did my Narcissist Ex Block Me? If you are wondering and have been looking for answers to this question, then cease your search here and give yourself a break from all your worries, wandering thoughts, and curiosities. Let us dig in to know more about narcissists, their dating patterns, the narcissist discard, and narcissists being the most difficult people and especially exes to deal with.
You might probably be wondering about your ex-narcissist partner after they left, will they be coming back anytime soon? Should you move on or wait for them? Is there any chance will you be able to move on from them and get someone better in your life? So once and for all, if you are thinking should you try to reconcile, beg or beseech them to come back to your life, then do not make any haste as we will be revealing a few reasons why a narcissist did leave you, or why they blocked you after they left you; and you might change your mind after reading the unbelievable and unconvincing reasons.
Narcissists tend to just ignore many situations or just do not prefer to get involved in the emotional drama and lurking of an ex. So narcissists choose ways of stone walling such people or exes by blocking, avoiding, gaslighting, ghosting, and any type of methods that can help them in avoiding a certain somebody when they feel they do not wish to get involved in certain situations.
If you might have been with a narcissist, as a dating partner or a friend, or a potential victim for obtaining their narcissistic supply, then you might know very well that narcissists are afraid to commit and they avoid getting into emotional drama or the melodramatic situations created by their exes, friends or acquaintances. Narcissists even cannot take it when someone tries to prove them incorrect or somehow highlight their wrongdoings, they get very upset and tend to project unwanted actions and try creating scenarios where they do not fall under the wrongdoer category.
This article is a guiding write-up, for all those readers, who have been searching for reasons to understand, “My Narcissist Ex Blocked Me” – Why? “Will they unblock me”? and “Is There Any Chance He/She Is Coming Back?”.
My Narcissist Ex Blocked Me – WHY?
Narcissists block you just for their pleasure and watch your efforts to gain them back. It is just one of their toxic games to seek joy from your suffering.
Your ex-narcissistic partner devalued, gaslit, and ignored you by blocking you. But why? – Here’s to the why!
1. Narcissistic exes often block you to feel validated, powerful, or just feeling their control over you
They would block you for getting validation – Narcissists find it difficult to perform even basic life functions without validation. They constantly need someone nodding their head into a yes, praising them for their efforts, and validating them through every decision they make. Thus when they do not find any source of validation, they would block you to lure your attention.
They would block you for feeling that power – Narcissists just desire power and control and block you, degrading your value in their life, or just gaining an upper hand in the relationship. Thus narcissists would block their ex to feel powerful and gain dominance in their life.
They would block you for gaining control – After losing control, a Narcissist ex would try all sorts of techniques to gain back control over you and the situation. Thus your narcissist ex would block you just to gain control over you, and once they feel they have control they might unblock you.
2. When you hurt their feelings, and they keep getting flashes or memories of that
If you have been with a narcissist then you might be familiar with the silent treatment, the no-answers zone, the ignoring phase, or the block game when there are any issues or inconveniences and misunderstandings in the relationship. Dealing with a narcissistic ex is as is tough and it needs a lot of patience to keep your life from tangling with them as they keep entering and exiting your life when they feel.
But when they feel you have got the taste of your punishment they would unblock you for getting benefits from you. This goes on frequently, they would block you and leave you to figure out the rest on your own. They like to do this and make you restless and concerned. Narcissists love to play games hence they would play the blocking-unblocking game frequently.
When they feel satisfied punishing you, or see you suffering enough, or when they feel you are miserable enough for doing them wrong they would end the blocking game. If the relationship is new or you have just started dating then the ignoring periods would be short, but as it exceeds the initial stage the silent treatment periods keep on extending and getting longer.
3. When they have found a new source for obtaining their narcissistic supply
Narcissists are always in search of a fresh supply and people tend to fall victim to their many charms. They may leave you when they find someone better than you or for fulfilling their magnified needs for lovemaking. To fulfill their empty and shallow life, narcissists gain attention, praise, and whatever they need to present their grandiosity of life.
So if they are getting all of these needs fulfilled by someone else in a better manner they might leave you for their new source of supply and to ensure that you do not become a hindrance to their new plan of switching partners, they would block you even without informing you. They are selfish and do not care for anything much, thus blocking would be much easy for them.
4. To spice up their life
Narcissist easily gets bored with things and people and thus they like to keep things fresh and going. So when a narcissist ex feels you have moved on in your life and have found someone better, they would simply block you, leave you to figure out the reason and enjoy the scenario. Narcissists enjoy sadistic pleasure, so they like to see you in pain, especially pain caused by them.
A narcissist would be smeared by you in the initial stages when they might have met you and might have approached you. You might have intrigued them initially, but once they suck complete supply out of you, or when you lose that initial charm or you keep bothering the constantly, or when you want to take the relationship to the next level, or when you demand so much from them, they would just block and ignore you until things spice up or get interesting.
5. It is just a choice made by solely the narcissist ex and it has nothing to do with you – They cannot move on from you
In the case of a narcissistic ex, they would simply block and unblock you when they feel the need to gain help from you or just to declutter their life with your help. Or when the narcissist feels they are unable to move on from you they would block you even after breaking up.
Blocking you is just a choice sometimes made by solely the narcissist to feel powerful and it has nothing to do with you so do not get concerned when they block you as they do this to make their life clutter-free. When a narcissist feels that so much is going on in their life, they would declutter by blocking or unblocking everyone so that they can think and act clearly without any hindrance to the process.
Is there any chance, He/She (Your narcissistic ex) is Coming Back?
There are certainly positive chances of your narcissistic ex entering your life whenever they feel like it or whenever they need you. So here are some signs to look forward to which may indicate that your narcissistic ex might still be interested in you. And those signs are,
1. By starting with simple accidental texts, calls, or even meetups – Your narcissistic ex would reach out to you in some ways
2. Bethinking past memories and reminding them to you
They would call or text you when they visit some of the places that you both cherished together when you were together. They would remind you of those memories to get back together. They would remind the memories from the attraction phase of narcissist dating, which are the only and probably the best memories together.
3. Presenting themselves as a changed individual
If you have to attend a mutual friend‘s wedding or any common social function with your narcissist ex-partner, they would remind you of such events in the past when you and they both enjoyed thoroughly. They would present themselves as drastically changed individuals than in the past. They would present their best version to lure you back.
Just remember that narcissists and change seldom go hand in hand. So before you decide or agree to date them again, just remember the positive changes that you might notice can be short-termed or surface-level changes, they might return to how they used to be in a short time once they have your attention.
4. When your Narcissistic ex starts feeling repentance and starts saying sorry
Narcissists would often present themselves as a changed being, and they would take all the blame for the rotting relationship that you had to face. They would be saying it was all their fault and gradually ask you to again be in a relationship with them.
5. They would be jealous when you move on and get involved with someone else
If you move on before a narcissist does, this would create a commotion in a narcissist’s life. If they still have some lingering feelings for you, they would be so jealous that they might even beg you to come back into their lives and start reappearing in your life almost every day to make you reminiscent.
Should you be swayed when a narcissistic ex tries to reappear in your life? – Should you give them a second chance?
Narcissists would definitely try to come back into your life from time often until they find a new supply. Supply is everything that makes them important like control, praise, worth, ego boost, and everything that makes them feel superior. They would use all these tricks to gain you back in their life. This is how they start reappearing in your life again, after breaking up. They would try to remind you of them by their glimpses and presence in similar places and even in your thoughts by manipulating them emotionally through texts, calls, notes, or any sort of communication.
But before recommencing your relationship with your narcissistic ex just check once again with what you want. Reassure a thousand times that you really want them back or is it just something repetitive due to lingering toxic feelings? Also, make sure you are really willing to be in a relationship with all your options weighed in, and also make sure that you are just not getting back with them just because you feel lonely or are persuaded by them.
Also remember, Narcissists do change a little from time to time, as change is inevitable for everyone, but their core personality and traits would remain the same, and also the changes can be only surface level. So before you decide or agree to date them again, just remember the positive changes that you might notice can be short-termed or surface-level changes, they might return to how they used to be in a short time once they have your attention.
Why would a Narcissist ex come back into your life even after breaking up?
There are various reasons for a narcissist to come crawling back to you, which are mentioned here, so even though a narcissist breaks up with you they would want to keep you as a backup as their supply source.
- A narcissist never wants to lose control over you – When a Narcissist loses control over you, they feel empty. A Narcissist is an individual who is excessively obsessed to have control over all situations in their life including the core ones like Money control and control over all individuals, and when they lose control over you they feel something is missing. So they would definitely want to continue the friendship even as exes to gain back their control over you.
- They always want to keep you as a backup option – A narcissist is always in search of supply, so a Narcissist would always want you to continue as friends even after breaking the relationship as romantic partners, so this depends upon you whether to be their victim again by accepting their offer.
- They would want to keep a door open for physical intimacy – A Narcissist craves physical intimacy, and when you are the most vulnerable (that is after your break up) they would insist that upon you. They would not tell you this upfront but would try to lure you for physical intimacy as soon as you try to recover from a breakup. They will play all sorts of love tactics to manipulate you and your thoughts just to keep you as an option for intimacy. It also can be like a “Friends with benefits” situation. But once they get what they want to achieve, again they would show their true colors.
- Lack of closure – Narcissists would just be MIA(Missing in Action) keeping you completely uninformed and they would return as if nothing ever happened and the relationship continues the same way before. They would lure you into believing that you never broke up, which would make you question who dumped whom, or “Is this really happening?”. So make sure you provide them a complete closure or they would be coming back for sure.
Important Takeaways
Narcissists tend to just ignore many situations or just do not prefer to get involved in the emotional drama and lurking of an ex. So narcissists choose ways of stone walling such people or exes by blocking, avoiding, gaslighting, ghosting, and any type of methods that can help them in avoiding a certain somebody when they feel they do not wish to get involved in certain situations.
Narcissists block you just for their pleasure and watch your efforts to gain them back. It is just one of their toxic games to seek joy from your suffering.
Narcissists would definitely try to come back into your life. But before recommencing your relationship with your narcissistic ex just check once again with what you want. Reassure a thousand times that you really want them back or is it just something repetitive due to lingering toxic feelings? Also, make sure you are really willing to be in a relationship with all your options weighed in, and also make sure that you are just not getting back with them just because you feel lonely or are persuaded by them.
Do not be lured by a narcissist once you break up with them. Just recollect all the bitter memories with them before reconciling. Just keep moving forward.
Yes! breaking up with a narcissist can be a cynical and delusional act, but once you are out there is no going back.
Trust yourself and all the beautiful emotions that you have regained after breaking up with a narcissist.
From Relationship, Depression, and Personality Disorder to Narcissistic problems, I have helped a lot of people find their solutions. Upon gathering a number of common problems that people face, I decided to put the information on this blog so that anyone can get their answers easily.
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