How Do Narcissists React When You Dump Them?
How do Narcissists react when you Dump them? Why do narcissists react differently when you dump them? Will a Narcissist come back after you dump them? Can you trust a narcissist when they reach out even after breaking up? Can you let go of the narcissist easily? Will they react vigorously when you dump them? Let us know more about a narcissist’s reactions when you dump them.
When a narcissist loses their source of supply, they cannot just let this go lightly. Them letting you go would not be easy, also there might be a long-going hoovering that would not let you dump them easily. They might curse you, would try to defame you, would smear your reputation, and also might bad-mouth you to the next person you might try to get with. Narcissists can stoop low sometimes when they are not ready to let you go easily or they have no substitute to fulfill their needs of narcissistic supply.
Acknowledging the fact that the narcissist would not let you go easily, they would linger around for a while, they might even take an act of revenge and it is going to be a long process if you are not strong-headed. Knowing what you are getting into exactly would make the discarding or dumping process easy for you and you would know how narcissists react when you break up or terminate the relationship with them. Dating a narcissist can be the best dating experience (when the relationship is new or when you do not know about their toxicity) or be the worst dating experience (when you dump them after acknowledging their true toxic personalities).
Narcissists have charming personalities which may a factor of attraction when you start dating them, they may be love-bombing you, making you feel special and you might even consider them as an ideal dating partner as they would be mirroring all the qualities that you admire. But as soon as the relationship proceeds, you would be getting to know their unlikely, uncharming, toxic personality which may become the factor for you to dump them.
Reasons why you might find dumping a narcissist difficult
- Dumping someone usually gives the feeling of rejection, especially to someone who might be suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and Narcissist does not handle rejections well.
- When you separate your ways from a narcissist, it hurts their pride and ego, and when it comes to hurting their ego, a narcissist might not sit back quietly and you might face some strict consequences too.
- Narcissists would not sit still and do nothing when you dump them, they would try to smear your name, or would just try to interfere with many things in your life involving your dating life.
- They would constantly remind you that you have made a huge mistake by breaking up with them.
- They would try to reach out to you and meet you, by taking the same routes, and the same mode of transportation, and would wait outside your workplace or your residence just to mention their mere presence and convince you to get them back.
- They would send you presents like flowers, chocolates, or anything dear to you to remind you that they still care for you; indeed this is not the case.
- They would even stalk you on all social media platforms by all means.
- They can even visit your favorite places or the places that they can hope to see you and would be appearing in front of you from time to time to just remind you of them.
- They would text you, call you with all emotional drama, would exaggerate how sad they are after you left so that they can make you gullible and lure you back.
- They would try to contact you through any possible means so that they can seek your attention from time to time.
- They would try to surprise you on special occasions like your birthday, festivals, or any important dates.
How do Narcissists react when you Dump them?
- A narcissist would tell you that they were already planning to leave you and sabotage the dumping situation
- Narcissistic would find a replacement faster than you can imagine
- Narcissists would make false assurances and show fake remorse
- Narcissists would stalk you, pester you or even harass you
- Narcissists might seek revenge and be vengeful
- Narcissists would feel highly insulted
- You can be a victim of a narcissistic hoovering
- Narcissists can stoop low and be malicious
1. A narcissist would tell you that they were already planning to leave you and sabotage the dumping situation
Narcissists cannot accept the fact that you dumped them, instead, they would tell you that they were already planning to do so before you did it. This way they may be able to save their self-esteem and also support their ego.
Narcissistic supply is one of the prime reasons for them to date commit to a relationship. They do not have love as the first priority, their first priority is obtaining their supply, once they drain you completely out of supply they would leave you or might still have you as their backup source of supply and they also have their own stock of narcissistic supply which might come to you as a surprise.
2. Narcissistic would find a replacement faster than you can imagine
Narcissists would not substantiate the fact that they survive and fit into the world with the help of supply, as they feel nothing could weaken their existence, but without supply, they would not be able to function smoothly and effortlessly. They are unable to process the thought of not having a source of supply so they always have their sources of supply lined up. As chefs stock up their refrigerators, in the same way, narcissists stock up their life with variable sources of supply in the form of friends, exes, life partners, family members, or even their romantic partners.
3. Narcissists would make false assurances and show fake remorse
They would present themselves as drastically changed individuals than in the past. They would present their best version to lure you back. They might prove that they have changed and try to reach you as a better individual to get you back. But just remember narcissists and change often do not go hand in hand.
Narcissists do change a little from time to time, as change is inevitable for everyone, but their core personality and traits would remain the same, and also the changes can be only surface level. So when you block a narcissist, they might fake the change of being a better version of themselves and also just remember the positive changes that you might notice can be for a short period of time or surface-level changes, they might return to how they used to be in a short time once they have your attention.
All of a sudden they would be full of emotions and sensitivity and would also act in the same manner. But remember this is all till they win you back. They would act gullible and would be ready to change for you. But remember change and narcissism are just opposites.
A narcissistic person cannot change so suddenly unless and until they have some motive or ill intention. So do not get swayed by their fake repentance or remorse and think thoroughly before taking any decision. Remorse, repentance, change, guilt, or forgiveness are mere words for a narcissist. They would be acting all gullible and would show repentance after you break up with them, but it is just until you come back into their life.
4. Narcissists would stalk you, pester you or even harass you
When you move on and break up the relationship with a narcissist, this is the time they feel that they are losing control over you, they would stalk you to track your activity so that they can know when you are dating someone new, or are still available as their supply.
When narcissists run out of all the ways to lure you back, they might stoop low to means like stalking. This is an uncommon behavior though, but you cannot judge a narcissist. So be prepared mentally. You should deal with a narcissist very carefully as they might have notes of your every activity. They might show up at places like your workplace, stalk you through social media, and even post something which is unfavorable to you. So always be careful while dealing with a narcissist.
If you block their number, they might try to reach you out through other phone numbers may be of a friend or a family member, or just might get a new sim. They would use all sorts of flattery and trickery to lure you for giving in. They would try to reach out to you and meet you, by taking the same routes of which they would be aware, the same mode of transportation, or might even wait outside your workplace or your residence just to mention their mere presence and convince you to get back with them.
By implying all means here we are referring to any way in which they might contact you. They can be creative at this point and just be ready to be surprised by unexpected ways through which they might try to get in touch with you once you dump them.
5. Narcissists might seek revenge and be vengeful
Narcissists are experts at getting revenge. When you dump them, they would find the means to hurt you. They would be so worked up about them losing their grip and control of you that they might affirmatively seek revenge. They can try to make you jealous by immediately finding a new partner and showing you that they have already moved past you.
They may threaten you by sending you threats of harming themselves or using any of your belonging like pictures or anything that they can use against you to try and develop any contact with you.
6. Narcissists would feel highly insulted
When you dump a narcissist, they feel like you have rejected them. When you reject someone they might be sad, hurt, or angry with you but in the case of a narcissist, they would make it personally about them, take that as an insult, and might even plan to take an act of revenge.
Narcissists fear the feeling of abandonment and by dumping them you might have triggered that fear. This act might wound their ego and to shield that ego a narcissist would do anything to insult you back.
Being dumped is equivalent to being insulted in the view of a narcissist as someone as superior and entitled as they cannot be dumped by someone as their partner. This might tarnish their image and so they would just take this as an insult and would obliterate you.
7. You can be a victim of a narcissistic hoovering
Usually, it is observed by psychology experts that many narcissists hoover as they cannot go along for a long time without getting their dose of supply like validation, ego boosts, praise, vulnerabilities, and much more so they probably hoover.
In case they have found someone new as their supply source, or they are simply not interested in you as much then they might not hoover.
But if they are truly into you, then they might hoover and not give up until you give up and return to the toxic relationship. They are headstrong about hoovering in such cases.
8. Narcissists can stoop low and be malicious
They can be malicious and resort to smearing your character or blaming you for wrong things. They would present such a perspective of you to people that people start thinking that it is you who has done the wrong and left the narcissist to be on their own. Narcissists can even stoop low and blackmail you. They would stalk you vividly and would not stop following you unless you give up the thought of dumping them and start thinking to get back with them.
Conclusion
Acknowledging the fact that the narcissist would not let you go easily, they would linger around for a while, they might even take an act of revenge and it is going to be a long process if you are not strong-headed. Knowing what you are getting into exactly would make the discarding or dumping process easy for you and you would know how narcissists react when you break up or terminate the relationship with them. Dating a narcissist can be the best dating experience (when the relationship is new or when you do not know about their toxicity) or be the worst dating experience (when you dump them after acknowledging their true toxic personalities).
Do not be lured by a narcissist once you break up with them. Just recollect all the bitter memories with them before reconciling. Just keep moving forward.
Yes! breaking up with a narcissist can be a cynical and delusional act, but once you are out there is no going back.
Trust yourself and all the beautiful emotions that you have regained after breaking up with a narcissist.
From Relationship, Depression, and Personality Disorder to Narcissistic problems, I have helped a lot of people find their solutions. Upon gathering a number of common problems that people face, I decided to put the information on this blog so that anyone can get their answers easily.
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