Do Narcissists Recognize Other Narcissists? (If Yes! How?)

Do Narcissists recognize other Narcissists? Is it really true that narcissists do acknowledge or identify their own type? Do narcissists get along with other narcissists? What are some reactions or outcomes when a narcissist recognizes other narcissists? Scrolling down till the very end of the article would help you gain answers to these questions. Your search ends here for the question, “Do Narcissists Recognize Other Narcissists?”.

What is a Narcissist?

A Narcissist is an individual who is often defined as a difficult individual, very difficult to live with, and tough to endure. A Narcissist is an individual who is excessively obsessed to have control, also they expect everyone around them to focus just on them.

They intend to be the center of attraction in all situations. They should be the elephant in the room all the time, are control freaks, are sly, mean, selfish, and much more. Most importantly Narcissists lack empathy on many occasions until it affects them. Narcissists do know empathy, but they never tend to caring, understanding, and easygoing for others as they think vulnerability and being soft to others are negative traits that can be used against them.

A narcissist is capable of feeling all emotions, it is just that they d not acknowledge them and express them due to their vulnerabilities. They fear expressing emotions can make them emotionally weak and vulnerable to their partner. They fear that once they surrender to their feelings they might lose control. Narcissists are incapable of understanding and exchanging feelings with others. They are self-obsessed and self-absorbed. They can not think from anyone else’s viewpoint.

There are some weird traits too when you associate with a narcissist. This should not come to you as a shock as being with a narcissist would bring lots of surprises, shocks, and regrets to you. So let us move further and know about some of the other strange and surprising things that a narcissist can, may, or would do. They come with many questionable demands, weird and strange behavior, and some acts that may be a little difficult for you to forget.

  • You are always the wrongdoer and not them in their eyes
  • Narcissists lack sensitivity and empathy.
  • They are selfish and inconsiderate
  • They always see the negatives first
  • They are almost incapable of praising others or giving enough credit to others
  • They act over dramatically over trivial matters
  • There is no winning against them in an argument
  • They are highly competitive even with someone who is incomparable
  • They cheat innumerable
  • Have unhealthy relationships.
  • Have regular mood swings.
  • Have uncommon expectations and unusual fantasies
  • They use bygone grudges as their trump card
  • They use manipulation in all situations where they feel they are losing the grip
  • They never provide straight answers

Now that enough is uncovered about what is a narcissist, let us hop back to the main question, Do Narcissists Recognize Other Narcissists?

Do Narcissists Recognize other Narcissists?

According to the above-mentioned traits about a narcissist, a narcissist may come across as someone who is competitive, jealous, always targeting their competition, always being the center of attraction, always getting what they want, always having their ways work, so you might be curious that would narcissist go along well with other narcissists! There are two possibilities here. A narcissist may or may not get along with other narcissists. First, let us know how they may get along with other narcissists!

The likeliness of a narcissist knowing another narcissist and getting along with other narcissists

The real catch here is that narcissists are the only people who know, understand, are well aware, and can tolerate and go along well with other narcissists. Despite the fact that narcissist hate competition where they want to prove their supremacy; having said that they do tend to understand their own type and sometimes even cooperate with each other in having their own ways.

According to a study, published in the Journal of Personality, people can deeply influence their own personality based on how they perceive other people and their personalities.

Usually, it is believed that people always attract like-minded. According to a study provided by the Economic Times, people are more likely to be drawn toward like-minded people or partners in a relationship.

One more research which was published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin and was conducted in Berlin by a group of Psychologists suggests that narcissists tend to flock together.

For this study, 290 pairs of best friends were asked by the researchers to complete the “Big Five” traits of personalities namely; conscientiousness, openness to experience, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. The “Dark Triad” of personality traits was also taken into account namely Psychopathy, Narcissism, and Machiavellianism.

The responses brought to light that friends pair that were friends tended to have similar degrees of narcissism while people with less degree of narcissism tended to have friends who were not prone to narcissism at all. Thus this study concluded that narcissists tend to flock together.

Does likeability among narcissist friends create loyalty and true affection?

According to Dr. Joe Burgo, who is a psychotherapist and the author of the book; “The Narcissist you know”, narcissist friendships may or may not have long-lasting but all they lack is genuineness, intimacy, loyalty, and affection. He also added, “In my experience, narcissists rarely have lasting friendships, but when they do, those friendships are best described as a mutual admiration society: ‘I agree to support your inflated sense of self and you agree to support mine”. Adding a little more he also stated, “True affection and real concern for one another are largely absent, and the attachment is fueled by mutual support for their narcissistic personalities”.

The unlikeliness of a narcissist knowing another narcissist and getting along with other narcissists

When a narcissist associates with other people, they are more likely to check first their cooperation, their willingness to get along, their chances of being a hindrance in a narcissist’s venture, or their like-mindedness with the narcissist. These are some key points that a narcissist assesses while associating with other people.

When a narcissist comes across another narcissist, it is like two same personalities are clashing against each other. A narcissist is totally not ready to get along with another narcissist as they would not get what they are looking for instead they would come across a similar personality which also going to be demanding, controlling, egoistic, and everything that a narcissist already is. When a narcissist befriends someone, all they want is someone who can give them what they want like supply.

But when a narcissist befriends another narcissist, that is not going to be the case as both people would be looking for the same things and would just not be able to cooperate or understand each other. As both would be thinking they are the greatest, both would want control, power, attention, and everything that comes under a narcissistic supply.

A narcissistic supply is everything that makes a narcissistic life fulfilled. It is that one thing that a narcissist always craves even if it is in its negative forms, that is attention. One can even say that a narcissist is only able to fulfill their life purposes on the basis of supply itself. They feel handicapped without their sources of admiration, attention, validation, importance, and everything that makes them feel special. Narcissists seek supply more than anything, and they could do everything to obtain their dose of supply.

Narcissistic supply is one of the prime reasons for them to make friends, date, or commit to a relationship. They do not have love, friendship, or making bonds as the first priority, their first priority is obtaining their supply, once they drain you completely out of supply they would leave you or might still have you as their backup source of supply.

Thus narcissists would unlikely be able to befriend another narcissist. As both would view each other as threats, most probably dislike each other, smear each other’s reputation, would speak ill about each other, and try to gain sympathy from others by being the victim of such an unfortunate friendship.

Do Narcissistic people hang out together?

The term friendship includes much more than a narcissist can know. For a narcissist, friendship is a means to obtain their dose of narcissistic supply whenever and whatever they can. To hang out or to chill together, a mutual bond of equal give and take is necessary which is almost unlikely for a narcissist. All a narcissist knows is to gain maximum and return minimum.

For instance, A narcissist would pay the bill t show their grandiosity and create an impression on others, but they would not hesitate even once to mention it repeatedly that they paid the bill. Either they would recover the bill payment from you, ask you to do something in return, or just keep mentioning that they paid the bill repeatedly. Also, they would drain you mentally and physically and suck the positivity out of you. So this is what hanging out with a narcissist looks like.

Can Narcissists be friends with other narcissists?

In some cases, similar kinds of narcissistic personalities help each other out to support their common goal to secure supply, victimize their targets, avoid conflicts, and be available to each other to cover their mistakes. This is how a narcissist can be friends with other narcissists.

Do Narcissists have friends?

How Do Narcissists Treat their Friends? – The answer is not uncanny, it is inferior, nasty, adverse, and all the other words that are synonyms for these words. Not always a narcissist is all bad, but their true nature does reveal every time you try to take a step back, or even try to ignore them or try to against them.

Narcissists might try or fake that they care about their friends, but in reality, all they care is about their needs, priorities, feelings, and concerns. They are primarily associated with self-praise, their accomplishments, their supply (supply is mostly associated with a person who falls victim to a narcissist person and their manipulation tactics to keep you in their lives), and everything about them.

What happens when two narcissists hang out with each other?

You might be thinking that you can know the true meaning of a toxic disaster when something like this, (two narcissists hanging together)happens, but this is not the case with many narcissists. “Like attracts Like”, so according to this two narcissists would happily hang out with each other, but it would be a not-so-meaningful experience as both could be ranting, sucking each other’s energy, spreading negativity to one another, or just would constantly speak ill of other people. It can also be fun, so the perfect outcome of “Two Narcissists hanging with each other” cannot be predicted precisely.

Conclusion

A narcissist may come across as someone who is competitive, jealous, always targeting their competition, always being the center of attraction, always getting what they want, and always having their ways work, so you might be curious if that would narcissist go along well with other narcissists! There are two possibilities here. A narcissist may or may not get along with other narcissists.

The possibility that narcissists may get along with other narcissists – The real catch here is that narcissists are the only people who know, understand, are well aware, and can tolerate and go along well with other narcissists. Despite the fact that narcissist hate competition where they want to prove their supremacy; having said that they do tend to understand their own type and sometimes even cooperate with each other in having their own ways.

The possibility that narcissists may not get along with other narcissists – When a narcissist comes across another narcissist, it is like two same personalities are clashing against each other. A narcissist is totally not ready to get along with another narcissist as they would not get what they are looking for instead they would come across a similar personality which also going to be demanding, controlling, egoistic, and everything that a narcissist already is. When a narcissist befriends someone, all they want is someone who can give them what they want like supply.

Ella Carrillo

Ella Carrillo

Hey Reader, I am Ella, an Online and Offline Therapist holding an experience of 6 years in this field. From Relationship, Depression, and Personality Disorder to Narcissistic problems, I have helped a lot of people find their solutions. Upon gathering a number of common problems that people face, I decided to put the information on this blog so that anyone can get their answers easily.

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