Can A Narcissist Change For The Right Woman?

Can A Narcissist Change For The Right Woman? The word “Change” and “Narcissism” sound a little unfitting together. In the same way; the concept of narcissists willingly changing themselves might come as a shocker for those who are familiar with narcissism and the personality disorder.

To understand NPD(Narcissistic Personality Disorder) or Narcisisim in simple form or pedestrian language, let us put it in simple words. Narcissism or Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a mental health condition, where the patient has extremely high admiration for themselves, including boosted self-esteem, self-centeredness, high self-worth, boosted ego, and a low tolerance for criticism, emotions, and attachments.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder is characterized by a lack of empathy for others, a grandiose sense of self-importance, and an immoderate need for admiration. Narcissists often believe that they are entitled to special treatment, and they tend to exploit others to fulfill their needs. The disorder typically develops in early adulthood and can persist throughout a person’s life. While Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is notoriously difficult to treat, it is essential to address the disorder as early as possible to prevent those affected from inflicting emotional harm on themselves and others.

Narcissists are often difficult to deal with because they have an inflated sense of self-worth that permeates every aspect of their lives. They may feel entitled, arrogant, and self-centered, and their behavior can be highly unpredictable, causing chaos and dysfunction in personal and professional relationships.

People with narcissistic traits often have a difficult time with change because they feel threatened by anything that challenges their sense of control and superiority. They may resist change and attempt to maintain their image and fake personality in order to preserve their sense of power, importance, and entitlement.

Are all narcissists the same?

No not necessary. Not all narcissists are the same. The degree of narcissism varies from person to person. There are different types of narcissistic personality disorders like grandiose and vulnerable, which also include some sub-types. People with each kind of narcissism, display different behaviors and traits. Additionally, narcissistic traits can manifest differently in different people depending on their context and circumstances. In some cases, people do portray narcissistic characteristics yet they do not qualify to be narcissists under clinical diagnosis.

Some personality traits a narcissist may exhibit

  • Lack of Empathy
  • Excessive sense of entitlement
  • Gaslighting
  • Seeking Admiration and Validation
  • Isolation
  • Lack of responsibility
  • Unsuccessful relationships
  • Unemotional behavior
  • Inflated self

Can narcissists change for someone they love or like?

It is hardly possible to predict the behavior of a narcissistic person. However, it is important to note that changing deep-rooted personality traits such as narcissism can be a complex and lengthy process. The process of incorporating “Change” in one’s own behavior requires a to of self-reflection, therapies, and perseverance. In most cases, the change is often initiated by the narcissist themselves, and not for someone else’s sake or under pressure.

It is also crucial to understand that a person cannot be changed for real forcefully. You cannot force a narcissist to change, and also it is not anyone else’s responsibility to change someone, especially their loved ones but yes one can help them in changing themselves. As changes that come from within may last longer and are true to their nature, while forced changes are temporary and do not even last longer.

Some narcissists may be capable of recognizing their flaws and working on themselves, it’s rare for them to do so solely for the sake of someone else. Narcissists often lack insight into their behavior and see no reason to change because they believe their behavior is justified and there is no problem with them behaving so.

Additionally, true changes require significant self-reflection and motivation to change. Narcissists may lack the necessary emotional intelligence and introspection to recognize their destructive patterns and make meaningful changes. While some narcissists may be capable of change it is unlikely for most to do so purely for the sake of a relationship. It may take severe consequences, such as losing a partner or facing legal repercussions, for some to recognize the need for change.

Should you trust a narcissist when they say they can change?

Narcissists do change a little from time to time, as change is inevitable for everyone, but their core personality and traits would remain the same, and also the changes can be only surface level. So before you decide or agree to date them again, just remember the positive changes that you might notice can be short-termed or surface-level changes, they might return to how they used to be in a short time once they have your attention.

Can A Narcissist Change For The Right Woman?

The answer to the question, “Can A Narcissist Change For The Right Woman? or “Can A Narcissist Change For Their Love?” is complicated and has no definite answer. Narcissists typically do not see their behavior as problematic and may be resistant to seeking help or changing their ways. If a narcissist desires to change willingly, then it is possible mainly with the help of professional help and a guide or a therapist who specializes in treating personality disorders. This process of changing one’s own behavior is a not-so-easy process and may also require perseverance. It also includes identifying and addressing underlying psychological issues such as childhood trauma or insecurity that may be contributing to a narcissist’s toxic behavior.

A lack of empathy makes it difficult for a narcissist to genuinely devote themselves to their partner. They continuously fear real feelings, as they think they might lose their power and love can make them weak. Narcissists hate weaknesses and only admire qualities such as power, control, money, supply, and competency which makes them feel accomplished and also these qualities are what they truly desire and love. Narcissists may not know or do not want to acknowledge the concept of love as their relationships are completely based on receiving their supply be it with multiple partners.

It is also important for a narcissist to learn and practice empathy and emotional regulation skills. Changing also requires learning to be more attentive and responsive to the needs and feelings of others, as well as managing their own emotions in a healthy and constructive way. For maintaining healthy, fulfilling, and happy relationships with others, narcissists need to inculcate these skills.

The success of a narcissist’s attempt to change their behavior will ultimately depend on their willingness to undergo therapy, healing, and treatments and also their level of commitment to making some positive changes in their life.

Also, it is not necessary that narcissists will or might change for the right woman in their life as narcissists hardly change their true nature. Narcissists believe that it is their world and it revolves around them. Everyone else is just playing their own parts and thus it is the narcissists according to whom the world might operate. It is not necessarily true that the “right” woman will be able to change into a narcissist. Ultimately it all depends upon the individual themselves. So it would be tough to say whether a narcissist changes or not for the right person whom they love as in most cases they fail to change, but there are exceptions in everything.

Can A Narcissist Change For Their Love?

If a narcissist develops any sort of interest because you are there for them, then also the relationship might not have the depth and intimacy which you long for. Because such relations hardly exist for them. They might not even fulfill your needs or even be emotionally available for you. As long as you agree and cater to their needs your relationship is good o go with a narcissist, but as soon as you put your thoughts or try to withdraw from the relationship be ready to face their wrath and revenge.

Usual relationships with a narcissist are short termed, they get what they want and skip to other relationships without providing a proper closure or providing any reasons for the breakup.

Narcissists always put their needs, their wishes, and their priorities first and then think about you. So when they say they love you, it means that you are fulfilling their needs and their wishes and thus they have developed a connection with you which may or may not be love.

A healthy relationship requires mutual understanding, respect, control, and nurturing. A narcissist is incapable to do so in most cases until they find someone similar to them, maybe a person with NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder). A narcissist may be able to find love when they come across someone who shares the same interests, the same thinking pattern, or maybe a personality disorder.


While it is possible for a narcissist to change their behavior and become somewhat considerate towards their relationships, it is also possible that narcissists might not want to change even for the love of their life. They may choose to let them go rather than change their own selves. Changing a narcissist is a difficult and complex process that requires dedication, hard work, and professional help from mental health experts or therapists.

While a supportive partner can certainly help to change the narcissist, encourage them to facilitate changes, and even motivate and support them to be a better person. But it all completely depends upon a narcissist’s willingness to change and also this desire must come from within and not by someone’s forceful actions.

So if a narcissist develops some sort of affection in case, and they are willing to change genuinely then there may be a chance of them finding or falling in love with your help. Trust your instincts and begin your search for love!

Ella Carrillo

Ella Carrillo

Hey Reader, I am Ella, an Online and Offline Therapist holding an experience of 6 years in this field. From Relationship, Depression, and Personality Disorder to Narcissistic problems, I have helped a lot of people find their solutions. Upon gathering a number of common problems that people face, I decided to put the information on this blog so that anyone can get their answers easily.

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